can u have a happy marriage if you both don't like each others sense of humor?

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UHhuh1

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we dated long distance for 10 months, so needless to say he was always tired from the long drive, i was overly excited and we only got 2 days at a time together. Stupid i know but we married before we knew each otehr really well. He's a great guy but we both seriously push each other away being so annoyed at each others personality. He is very dry humored, sarcastic and negative, but he's a great dad and provider. I annoy him because i'm full of energy and he says my batteries never run down, kind of thing. Is it possibly to be happy liek this? been married 6 yrs and not happy at all, even from year 1. I'm very attracted to guys i can TALK TO and actually make ME laugh, and i feel bad about this. Ive told him all this, everything, so thats not something i need to do--already done it. Personality and sense of humor can't change, so is there any hope?
 
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just

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You don't have to exactly "get each other" to be in a marriage. You married him because you loved him. If you married him just because you were in "lust" with him, that's a different story. But if you have kids with him, you have to know that there will never be any other man on this planet that will love your children more than he will, because he's their father. This is the difference between getting married and just hanging out with some guy.

You married him, so you must love him. Yes, you want someone to make you laugh, but how is that so easy when you're in a relationship when you have to worry about kids, money, and making a living? It's not easy at all. So if that goes away with this guy, do you want to throw away a relationship with him (and sever a relationship with the father of your child) just because you can't laugh all the time? These are the things you need to think about. Think about them seriously. When you have children, you can't just think about yourself, but what's best for the child/children.
 
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trustthebear

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The only thing here that needs to change a little at a time is the sarcastic and negative responses, which means find out what is the reason driving that behaviour or attitude and find a way to change that to some thing more constructive and not destructive. If that is what is driving nails and thorns into the relationship, that is what needs worked out. Don't have an answer just an observation from what has been said.
 
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francis

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I say yes you can...if you both agree on accepting each others differences in humor. My fiances humor is very different than mine and we get along fine... when we're in the same country if not we're always on eachothers toes about not being funny (semi longdistance relationship as well) I started talking to other guys and it got me ina bad situation... maybe you could help me out?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20111004224029AASakKk
 
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naynay

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I'm sorry to say but it sounds like this isn't going to last. You two are just to different. There's nothing wrong with the way you are or the way he is but you just aren't good together. If you have already talked everything over and tried to make it work but it just isn't and neither of you are happy after 6 years, then it's probably time for a divorce. But, if you want to make it work, then you just need TONS of communication which couples don't understand. I don't mean a short little 2 minute I'm unhappy ok bye talk I mean actually talk everything over. Good luck.
 
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