mLunaLunam
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- Jun 7, 2008
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My relationship has been perfect until this week and this week I started getting doubts. I'm in a long-distance relationship and I was willing to move to his country. I bought a book on the process and applied to jobs. Although I feel there are more opportunities for both of us here -though his English isn't so great but I feel it can be worked on. The only thing it's hard for a foreigner to get a job there without a visa and the only jobs I can probably most likely get are ones in education which is not what I studied (marketing). The economy hasn't been helping me find a job here either. He was also willing to move but this week I saw some doubts about moving in his words. He said "at least there he has something" (his job where he only works a couple of days and can make from 300-1000€ or slightly more a week.) "Moving is a big decision, he has to think about it". Thing is he always says he never wants to lose me and he's of afraid of losing me. He also said he doesn't want to make me make decision like moving or taking a job that I don't like. But those two sentences- the ones in quotes- this week scared me and all of a sudden I went from happy madly in love to scared and confused.
He still talks about our future and calls me his nephew's aunt. He sends me messages all the time. everything is great. Although his words made me nervous so our conversation was a little dull this week. I have plans to see him by the end of December and he's still excited about me coming. He also started making plans to come here from July to September. He talks to his family constantly about me, he's introduced me to his friends, we've talked about marriage (he even wanted to elope!) kids, I was his first..I'm a big part of his life. Plus he spent two years trying to find me after I came back to the States to tell me how much he loved me and never wants to lose me again.
I know it's normal to be scared about making such a big decision and I'm scared too. We're in two completely different countries. And you need to raise money before moving to another country. So I don't know if that's why he's also thinking of staying there longer. However, I feel like he still wants to be with me forever but his words about the being in the same place decision is confusing me. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to ask him how he feels. I want to be with him but I'm afraid he'll want to stay in his country longer and longer. I know I have to tell him how I feel and ask him about his feelings. But are these signs that it might not work or can they be worked out?
He still talks about our future and calls me his nephew's aunt. He sends me messages all the time. everything is great. Although his words made me nervous so our conversation was a little dull this week. I have plans to see him by the end of December and he's still excited about me coming. He also started making plans to come here from July to September. He talks to his family constantly about me, he's introduced me to his friends, we've talked about marriage (he even wanted to elope!) kids, I was his first..I'm a big part of his life. Plus he spent two years trying to find me after I came back to the States to tell me how much he loved me and never wants to lose me again.
I know it's normal to be scared about making such a big decision and I'm scared too. We're in two completely different countries. And you need to raise money before moving to another country. So I don't know if that's why he's also thinking of staying there longer. However, I feel like he still wants to be with me forever but his words about the being in the same place decision is confusing me. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to ask him how he feels. I want to be with him but I'm afraid he'll want to stay in his country longer and longer. I know I have to tell him how I feel and ask him about his feelings. But are these signs that it might not work or can they be worked out?