Constantly arguing with a former friend over my dating preferences, what should I do?

Raye2

New member
I would really like to be friends again with this girl I hung out with in Junior High. We drifted apart over the years because of our interest, she was more into partying and I am a late bloomer(I am still a virgin). Over the last year and a half we have come to blows over my dating choices, I am mixed race and I prefer to date white men, I do not hate black men or anything like that I just prefer white guys. She is mixed but looks completely black, and she says it is a "personal insult" that I don't date black men. I have had the same issue with my father at some points, but it has been resolved(turns out it was just a big misunderstanding between me and my dad) her attitude has been awful to say the least and I now avoid speaking to her. It hurts that she can't see past that, I would never do this to her, yet she feels it is OK. In our last conversation she accused me of racism because I do not want to join/form an all-black student union. I feel that college is for education and not political activism, plus why should the race of my classmates be an issue? I want to be friends with her, but I have lately begun to avoid her completely.
 

Brad

Member
Sounds like a closet racist to me... I'd either confront her about it and try to help her see logic or give up on the friendship. She seems to be discriminating against white men but calls you the racist to hide her own prejudice. Dr. King wanted us all to be equals. Many people have already forgotten that and its sad...
 

FoundThinker

New member
Stay away from her. With a friend like that...who needs enemies? She is probably jealous that you date white guys. With her jealousy, she accuses you of being racist.

Avoid her!
 
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