Dating after divorce - does this relationship have a future?

[AlyssaMacey]

Last year I started to date when I was ready to let go of my marriage. It happened very quickly that I met this lovely guy and we have been together a year. Together is too strong word cause it is a long-distance relationship (1 hour flight). He is divorced and has 2 kids with his x, and their relationship is bad. There was not a good word said about his x (however she does sound mad). My boyfriend took his time (9 months) before introducing me to his kids and parents (which is a good thing). Our relationship is great - he is the most caring, kind man and my best friend. However, I can't keep wondering if we have a future. I am 36 now and it's natural I want to have a family. There is no sign of a plan, only talks about him going with me to my home country to meet parents (and about our future house). He says now he will buy a ticket later cause he has no money. To me this is an alarm bell and I think it's an excuse and I am starting to get worried if he is as serious as he says. What would a smart woman do? Thanks

 

[balloonsfly2003]

Call him out on it.

Going to meet the parents is a big deal, and it's an even bigger deal if they live overseas. Ask him if you can help pay for his ticket. Sit him down and ask him where he sees you guys in a few years, and if he's willing to have children with you.

Even if he's great to be around, if he doesn't want the same future as you, he's not a good mate.