Discreet bisexual relationship: How to break up with a possessive and difficult...

[JamesN]

Hmm like everyone else, the more he struggles to tame you the more you want to be free. He seems really clingy. But i am pretty sure there is a story behind why he is being like this. Maybe because you are his first, and does not want to loose you, so if he does not want to loose you he tends to want you closer to him as possible. Every first relationship is always clingy! ><;;

Its going to be really hard to talk to him if he does not listen, and is very aggressive >< dont want him to kill you now, haha >< jkin`, sorry ! Try to talk to him, again ! But this time if he starts being aggressive, HOLD ON TO HIM !! and If he rebels then let go, and stay a few feet away. Knowing he hits things he might hit you again ><, and this time harder =X. While holding onto him YELL at him telling him to LISTEN TO YOU !! When he calms down then tell him that he is killing you, inside out and tell him to be more understanding. You might hurt his feelings >< because he probably never thought you felt this way about him, and what he's doing is actually contributing so much pain and burden to you. After venting to him your current situation, and feelings. Say that you love him and tell him not to take it the wrong way. Set some agreements, if everything works out well.

After this maybe you guys can tell each other some corny pick up lines ( those are my favs. ) hahah. Cuddle, etc.

// Goodluck !! hope this helps

 

[SeñoritoArcher]

...partner? Help!

I've been in a discreet bi relationship for 5 months. Everything seemed to be ok for the first 2 months until he slowly changed and showed his true identity. I will tell you our situation so you can give me a better advice.

1. Him: A medical representative. Drives a company car and picks me up everyday after work
Me: A division manager for a publishing company. Prefers to commute rather than driving though I have my own car.

2. Him: For the 1st 2 months. He's been hiding his social status that his family is under financial crisis in the provivince not until I found out.
Me: Honestly told him that I'm with my aunt because my parents already died and my siblings aree outside the country though I am quite financially stable. I don't really mind his social status. I even provide financial assistance to his mother who is sick. His mother was crying and told me that his own son (my partner)doesn't do it to him. Am always happy to help his mom because I always long for one.

3. Him: As we go longer, he more and more possesive - he always wants to me be dependent to him which I don't like.
Me: gives him the benefit of the doubt, always understands his business requirement.

4. Him: Whenever we argue, he does the talking while raising his tone, slams his hand on everything even inside the car and even sometimes hit me in the head.
Me: Quiet, would only talk when he always says Off things to me. Often he would flare up if I keep myself quiet and say profance words

5. Him: wants to see me everyday even he has other responsibilities neglected.
Me: I would ask for a sat and sunday rest a home. My point is that we see each other everyday and I also have responsibilities at home to help doing house chores and sleep.

6. Him: He wants ALL my actions will be notified to him ALL THE TIME even if im in the office. As if I need to sms him every hour.
Me: I want to be normal. I have responsibilities at work which consumes my time if I sms him almost every hour

7. Him: When he's mad, he would harass me via sms and say that I am like this because I am still having SEX and flirt with other people.
Me: Would absolutely tell him that he's wrong. Will always have to remind him that not seeing him EVERY SINGLE DAY would mean infidelity. The real score is thatI don't want to see him everyday is because I'm becoming more stressed with him as I am with my work.

Guys, what do you think would be the best thing to break up with him given that he doesn't want to listen? He knows oue home phone and he calls there when I don't want to talk to him. My fear is that my aunt doens't have a clue as to what's hapeening to me as I am bisexual and still have plans of marrying someday

I've attempted to break up with him and it doesn't seem to work because he's dominating. When we argue, he keeps on yellling at me and he doen't let me talk.

I really hate this feeling, totally hate this feeling. Having a partner should be an inspiration, on the contrary, he's now one of my stress. I'd rather be single again that getting 2x headache.

I hope everyone understands my feelings and thoughts as I've been thinking hard that no one has been into situation like. Please help.

Thanks in advance.