AshleyGoldberg
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- Sep 3, 2010
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I've become really attracted to my dr. I can't tell if he is flirting and interested in me also. I'm getting these signals because whenever I am in for an appt, if hes walking by in the hall, once he sees me, he pops his head in and smiles big and says "Hey!! whats up? Ill be right in!" and comes riiight back. Ive made sure to notice if he does this to everyone, adn he definitely doesnt. Also, we had a mutual facebook friend, and when I had to email him about a medical question, he replied, and then said, hey can I ask you a question when we're done with this? So he mentioned he saw me on FB, so out of curiosity, I added him, and was surprised when he accepted my request, because usually doctors arent so willing to let patients into their personal lives...right? And even more lately, if I have to email for something, he'll of course always help me medically first, but like 9/10 times will mention something personal...or ask a personal question. He is my GP, just to clarify.
When i was in for my latest appt, he was making a lot of small talk and being chatty, which he usually is, but this time asking a little more personal questions, and touched my leg when he said hello, and put his arm around me when we were leaving.
One night, I accidentially sent a FB message to him, which was meant for someone else..and he replied the next morning, and said 'hey
' which was what I had sent. and asked if it was a virus..and all I said was, 'yeah, im so sorry' and he replied again, adn said "its ok, i didn't mind!!"
Then for my latest appt...he was even more friendly with me and seemed really happy to see me, did the leg touch again, chatted it up, and seemed kind of nervous actually. When it was time to go, he hugged me!! and it wasnt a really quick one. (isnt that another no-no in this profession? its not like i was crying about something medical, and needed his consoling). so after this hug, he wanted to show me around his new practice, he showed me his personal office, but that was basically it. The interesting thing about this tho, was that once we were in the office, he kind of hurried over to his comp and said, oh looks like it was me that was logged into your chart before. As in before he even saw me for the appointment. Why would he be looking @ that so prematurely..i just needed refills, and theres a chart in the room. Also asked me the next time i would be coming home from college.
So i dont know how to approach the situation...is he interested? Is he hesitant to approach me because he is my doctor? Do I have to make first moves? Is it because of the age differnce (hes 46, i'm 22) and he thinks I wont be interested in an older man and he doenst want to be embarassed? How should I let him subtly know that I am interested with out coming across annoying to him? Ive sent a FB msg recently, but hadnt gotten a response :/ maybe he doesnt want an electronic trail of this due to legalities? idk. Any suggestions please at all please, even if its just about his behavior!
Are older men flattered when younger women are interested in them?
sorry this is so long, thank you so much tho!
When i was in for my latest appt, he was making a lot of small talk and being chatty, which he usually is, but this time asking a little more personal questions, and touched my leg when he said hello, and put his arm around me when we were leaving.
One night, I accidentially sent a FB message to him, which was meant for someone else..and he replied the next morning, and said 'hey
' which was what I had sent. and asked if it was a virus..and all I said was, 'yeah, im so sorry' and he replied again, adn said "its ok, i didn't mind!!"Then for my latest appt...he was even more friendly with me and seemed really happy to see me, did the leg touch again, chatted it up, and seemed kind of nervous actually. When it was time to go, he hugged me!! and it wasnt a really quick one. (isnt that another no-no in this profession? its not like i was crying about something medical, and needed his consoling). so after this hug, he wanted to show me around his new practice, he showed me his personal office, but that was basically it. The interesting thing about this tho, was that once we were in the office, he kind of hurried over to his comp and said, oh looks like it was me that was logged into your chart before. As in before he even saw me for the appointment. Why would he be looking @ that so prematurely..i just needed refills, and theres a chart in the room. Also asked me the next time i would be coming home from college.
So i dont know how to approach the situation...is he interested? Is he hesitant to approach me because he is my doctor? Do I have to make first moves? Is it because of the age differnce (hes 46, i'm 22) and he thinks I wont be interested in an older man and he doenst want to be embarassed? How should I let him subtly know that I am interested with out coming across annoying to him? Ive sent a FB msg recently, but hadnt gotten a response :/ maybe he doesnt want an electronic trail of this due to legalities? idk. Any suggestions please at all please, even if its just about his behavior!
Are older men flattered when younger women are interested in them?
sorry this is so long, thank you so much tho!