TonsiLBoxeR
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...but said she has a boyfriend...? I met this girl who is a young bartender (similar in age) and I hit it off with her the first night we met. We carried a very interesting conversation back and forth throughout the night. I kept it light and we laughed many times. She then proceeded to pour a shot for the two of us and said "take this with me".
Toward the end of the night I asked her if I could give her my phone number. I was going to write it down and give it to her and she could do what she wanted with it. I was trying to make it very passive so she didn't feel awkward with that question. Given she is a bartender I'm sure she has guys hit on her and ask for her number all the time. I wanted to give her the option without asking for hers. Anway, she said "sure" and pulled out her phone and entered my number. Then she said "Is your phone ringing" and I said "yes" then she said "That's mine". She told me that she has a boyfriend however just after that. I was cool and said "OK thats cool".
That was 5-weeks ago and I have continued seeing her about once a week when she'd work. She pays heavy attention to me and usually sits or stands just opposite of me behind the bar. We get along very well and I can tell by her body language and behavior that she is in to me (well, so I think anyway). I have heard from 3 or 4 other 'regular locals' at the bar who have all said "Wow, you two really have something going on, its obvious you both show heavy interest in each other". Thats been going on now for about 4 weeks. I keep it light, I have fun and enjoy being around her. And I believe it is the same for her in return. Like I said about 3 or 4 people have also noticed and told me at different times on different days.
The problem I'm having now is exactly that...."Now what?" I am respectful of her current relationship and would never do anything to jeopardize that. I just want to be around her and if something should fall apart on the other end she'll know that I'm definitely an option. The problem though is that it's weird because I find myself thinking about her now a little more often.
I think the best thing to do is nothing at all and just keep things the same as they've been going. This whole time I have had her number and I have never called it or texted her. I think what I'm doing is good but just want some other opinions as well. Thanks.
IN ADDITION: In regards to some of the responses. First off, thank you guys. Secondly, Things just starting really developing as far as emotionally within the last week, well last few days actually when we were there.
I do believe there is a chance she may leave her boyfriend, she never brings him up except for the first time she told me and that was it.
However she did say 2 days when I saw her... "I had a really crappy weekend *yada yada*....and I almost broke up with my boyfriend Saturday night". I thought that was interesting.
I don't think she's just gonna run out and leave him for me. I don't think things are all that great on the homefront though if you know what I mean. She's very honest and sincere and I don't think she would ever cheat on him. Besides this is a 'sex' or hooking up kind of thing. I legitimately like this girl and am very attracted to her personality etc.. I don't know what her relationship is like but seems to me that it cant be so great.
EDIT: Should be IS NOT a sex or hooking up deal. I honestly like her as person.
Toward the end of the night I asked her if I could give her my phone number. I was going to write it down and give it to her and she could do what she wanted with it. I was trying to make it very passive so she didn't feel awkward with that question. Given she is a bartender I'm sure she has guys hit on her and ask for her number all the time. I wanted to give her the option without asking for hers. Anway, she said "sure" and pulled out her phone and entered my number. Then she said "Is your phone ringing" and I said "yes" then she said "That's mine". She told me that she has a boyfriend however just after that. I was cool and said "OK thats cool".
That was 5-weeks ago and I have continued seeing her about once a week when she'd work. She pays heavy attention to me and usually sits or stands just opposite of me behind the bar. We get along very well and I can tell by her body language and behavior that she is in to me (well, so I think anyway). I have heard from 3 or 4 other 'regular locals' at the bar who have all said "Wow, you two really have something going on, its obvious you both show heavy interest in each other". Thats been going on now for about 4 weeks. I keep it light, I have fun and enjoy being around her. And I believe it is the same for her in return. Like I said about 3 or 4 people have also noticed and told me at different times on different days.
The problem I'm having now is exactly that...."Now what?" I am respectful of her current relationship and would never do anything to jeopardize that. I just want to be around her and if something should fall apart on the other end she'll know that I'm definitely an option. The problem though is that it's weird because I find myself thinking about her now a little more often.
I think the best thing to do is nothing at all and just keep things the same as they've been going. This whole time I have had her number and I have never called it or texted her. I think what I'm doing is good but just want some other opinions as well. Thanks.
IN ADDITION: In regards to some of the responses. First off, thank you guys. Secondly, Things just starting really developing as far as emotionally within the last week, well last few days actually when we were there.
I do believe there is a chance she may leave her boyfriend, she never brings him up except for the first time she told me and that was it.
However she did say 2 days when I saw her... "I had a really crappy weekend *yada yada*....and I almost broke up with my boyfriend Saturday night". I thought that was interesting.
I don't think she's just gonna run out and leave him for me. I don't think things are all that great on the homefront though if you know what I mean. She's very honest and sincere and I don't think she would ever cheat on him. Besides this is a 'sex' or hooking up kind of thing. I legitimately like this girl and am very attracted to her personality etc.. I don't know what her relationship is like but seems to me that it cant be so great.
EDIT: Should be IS NOT a sex or hooking up deal. I honestly like her as person.
