My sister and I got into a heated discussion last night. We have both been through a lot during our childhood because of my mother. I was just hoping to talk to her cause I feel she could relate. Instead she got mad that I would even bring the topic up, and she feels that she has been through more than me, and I am merely making things up.
In my family, we always seem to brush things off instead of addressing them. But I feel that this causes dysfunction and doesn't solve anything. Things are different now because we don't live with her anymore, but we talk to her on a daily basis. My mother acts as if she never did anything wrong and has never tried to apologize to us.
Well, last night my sister stated that I should just let it go because she claims that she has. I understand you gotta forgive people for yourself, but some things you can never forget.
Then, she said that what we have been through was God's way of testing us and that we are better people because of it. So I told her that I thought that was bullshit and that I am tired of people using religion to justify evil behavior. By the end of the arguement I mistakenly told her I was an Athiest. I've kept this secret for years because I didn't want to be shunned away from my family and I didn't want to cause anyone to question their faith because religion is the only thing some of my family has.
She got really upset and asked me to take her home because she thinks I'm a devil worshipper. Then she said there's no point in living if I don't believe in God and grabbed the wheel and made my car do a 360 turn in the street and my car ended up on the sidewalk. Then she got out the car and banged my in my face. So I called the police, and she ended up walking home (I didn't press charges).
I'm just confused now and don't know what to do!!!
In my family, we always seem to brush things off instead of addressing them. But I feel that this causes dysfunction and doesn't solve anything. Things are different now because we don't live with her anymore, but we talk to her on a daily basis. My mother acts as if she never did anything wrong and has never tried to apologize to us.
Well, last night my sister stated that I should just let it go because she claims that she has. I understand you gotta forgive people for yourself, but some things you can never forget.
Then, she said that what we have been through was God's way of testing us and that we are better people because of it. So I told her that I thought that was bullshit and that I am tired of people using religion to justify evil behavior. By the end of the arguement I mistakenly told her I was an Athiest. I've kept this secret for years because I didn't want to be shunned away from my family and I didn't want to cause anyone to question their faith because religion is the only thing some of my family has.
She got really upset and asked me to take her home because she thinks I'm a devil worshipper. Then she said there's no point in living if I don't believe in God and grabbed the wheel and made my car do a 360 turn in the street and my car ended up on the sidewalk. Then she got out the car and banged my in my face. So I called the police, and she ended up walking home (I didn't press charges).
I'm just confused now and don't know what to do!!!