Fights with Mom?

[Aliya]

My mom and I fight alot, alot, alot. But I know I should talk to her, but its not that easy. Lately it has been getting out of hand. I keep telling her that we should go to family counseling, but she tells me I have to fix this all by myself. I have tried ignoring her, but it is so hard for me to do this because I can't just not have any conversations with her if they are fights or not. My brother and sister seem to be perfect in her eyes and they are really mean to me even though I am a year older then my brother and two years then my sister. I am really sensitive about my weight and they are always calling me fat and ugly. My mom is a single mom but it is so hard to get along with her. I don't know what else to try, I really need to hear other opinions because I don't like talking to friends about this kind of stuff. My sister is in grade 6 and she is calling me a b----. I don't even swear ever. My mom doesn't even care that she is swearing, when I swore in grade 8, I got in trouble.
swore once** in grade 8
also anything else i can do right now she wont even talk to me?

 

[letsjstpretend7]

i really think u should talk to ur school counselor about this the way ur family is treating u is really not right...... they are verbaly abusing u and its not rite...... but just keep ur head up ur not alone........i promise.....everythings gonna be okay.

 

[cvtl3]

Think about this: you are the oldest in your family. Your mom was not a parent before she had you. You are her experiment child, as hard as that is to accept. She will try every parenting skill she has with you first. She will make more mistakes with you and probably make you madder than anyone else. My guess is she sees a lot of herself in you. For some reason, that always makes it harder to get along with the person that shows you yourself right to your own face!!!. I'm sure your mom has a tough road being a single mom. You could really help her and yourself out a lot by realizing what a struggle it is for her, raising 3 kids alone. Not having parented before you, she could use your help by you calmly telling her things that she say s that may hurt or anger you. Maybe if you talk instead of yell, you two will hear each other. If it's easier, write her notes. Your letter you just wrote is very descriptive. If you wrote in detail to her about your feelings, maybe she would understand more about what makes you tick, it would also teach her do's and don'ts for your siblings. It's hard to be the first. Hang tough.

 

[TrppleGld]

It's okay.. She still loves you tell her that you love her and apologize and get on your knees and pray!

 

[Pink08]

Your mother needs to get some control over your younger siblings and the way they talk to you. They should, under no circumstances, be allowed to call you names. I assume that you have to be in charge of them sometimes when your Mom is not home. If so, that is why they act that way.

Talk to your mother in private about the name calling. Tell her it is very important to you that she discuss this. If that doesn't work, talk to a school counselor about what you can do to stop this. They are trained to handle these situations and have resources to help you.