the_great_masticator
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- Dec 4, 2009
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i've been with my boyfriend 7months, and when he's in a good mood he is the best company i could ask for....but when he' in a bad mood he's just the opposite-i can tell when i first see him he's not 'really' happy to see me. he doesn't make eye contact, he seems preoccupied. i'll TRY to have conversations, but i can sesnse he's not listening and usually at some point he will pause me mid-sentance to say something like 'hey do you think we could go to bed?'.sometimes he can be grouchy, he goes from being considerate, attentive, and playful ....to selfish, distant, and irritable.
the source of his mood change is sometimes chemical depression, but also his reaction to stress. ...while i can recognize that much, i still don't feel it's completely acceptable. between work and school some weeks i work 50 hours...he's only a student and works 12 hours yet HE chooses to save his work until the ONLY time im free which is nights usually by 10. i always drive to him (he has no gas money)even though it's a little far from work and SOMEHOW even though i have 4 times his work load, HE's the one whoes overwhelmed with HW. somehow i have time to complete MY school work while being a full time manager and i have time for HIM while HE's preoccupied. sometimes i get tiered of pulling ALL the weight in the relationship. i do alot for him and all i ask is that every other night, come 10pm he's done his work with all the free time he had durring the day and he's ready to be the sweet loving guy i can feel relieved to see after a long day of work. i feel frustrated and don't know what i can do to improve the situation.
its not a sex thing....and he's actually a very sweet person.....but he can NOT handle work and im TRYING to be understanding but im losing my patients.
the source of his mood change is sometimes chemical depression, but also his reaction to stress. ...while i can recognize that much, i still don't feel it's completely acceptable. between work and school some weeks i work 50 hours...he's only a student and works 12 hours yet HE chooses to save his work until the ONLY time im free which is nights usually by 10. i always drive to him (he has no gas money)even though it's a little far from work and SOMEHOW even though i have 4 times his work load, HE's the one whoes overwhelmed with HW. somehow i have time to complete MY school work while being a full time manager and i have time for HIM while HE's preoccupied. sometimes i get tiered of pulling ALL the weight in the relationship. i do alot for him and all i ask is that every other night, come 10pm he's done his work with all the free time he had durring the day and he's ready to be the sweet loving guy i can feel relieved to see after a long day of work. i feel frustrated and don't know what i can do to improve the situation.
its not a sex thing....and he's actually a very sweet person.....but he can NOT handle work and im TRYING to be understanding but im losing my patients.