RayeLouise
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When we began dating he chased me as it always starts he finally got me. In the beginning of the relationship it was fair to say I wore the trousers, and could wrap him around my little finger, that's not to say I did.
Now 1 year and 4 months down the line we reached a comfortable level ground where we both had corresponding ranks and loved and respected each other the same.
However, now I feel completely trodden down, I wait on him hand and foot, bringing him tea and making him meals, straightening his hair, personal stuff,
always buzzing around him with affection & hints for sexual affection we live day to day by his ideals, waking up when he says, He decides what we eat, what TV we watch, and frankly treats me like a child i do talk like one to him only out of love as you do.
I like making him meals and pleasing him but I would also like it to be a two way street but I feel completely under the thumb and I have no control left, he takes and takes but never gives back. I can't persuade him to do anything for me and him being lazy doesn't help matters. we rarely have sex and when we do its quick an over with nowadays
he says its because hes so knackered with his job as a bus driver he has stupid shifts all week sometimes from 3am til 1pm. or 4pm till 12am. hes quick happy for me to sit and let me give head sometimes rejects me cause hes tired or not in the mood.
I dont tend to bottle my emotions but lately I have erupting into rants and arguments because I have so much bottled rage, and every time he slightly does something little to annoy, me calls me a name jokingly i take it personally or ask me if I'm in a bad mood, which PUTS me in a bad mood.
I just want some control back, I don't feel respected or valued anymore. people have suggested giving him space and letting him chase after me a little more so ive suggested thursdays to himself, but does anyone have any other suggestions? Thank you X
he does love me very much, and i him but all i come across to him now is moaning nagging checking up on him and he snaps and then its a circle again. we work things out so no suggestions of dumping please.
Now 1 year and 4 months down the line we reached a comfortable level ground where we both had corresponding ranks and loved and respected each other the same.
However, now I feel completely trodden down, I wait on him hand and foot, bringing him tea and making him meals, straightening his hair, personal stuff,
always buzzing around him with affection & hints for sexual affection we live day to day by his ideals, waking up when he says, He decides what we eat, what TV we watch, and frankly treats me like a child i do talk like one to him only out of love as you do.
I like making him meals and pleasing him but I would also like it to be a two way street but I feel completely under the thumb and I have no control left, he takes and takes but never gives back. I can't persuade him to do anything for me and him being lazy doesn't help matters. we rarely have sex and when we do its quick an over with nowadays
he says its because hes so knackered with his job as a bus driver he has stupid shifts all week sometimes from 3am til 1pm. or 4pm till 12am. hes quick happy for me to sit and let me give head sometimes rejects me cause hes tired or not in the mood.
I dont tend to bottle my emotions but lately I have erupting into rants and arguments because I have so much bottled rage, and every time he slightly does something little to annoy, me calls me a name jokingly i take it personally or ask me if I'm in a bad mood, which PUTS me in a bad mood.
I just want some control back, I don't feel respected or valued anymore. people have suggested giving him space and letting him chase after me a little more so ive suggested thursdays to himself, but does anyone have any other suggestions? Thank you X
he does love me very much, and i him but all i come across to him now is moaning nagging checking up on him and he snaps and then its a circle again. we work things out so no suggestions of dumping please.