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<blockquote data-quote="Flora" data-source="post: 1993838" data-attributes="member: 226617"><p>when friends tease me or ask me questions as jokes, i answer seriously. However, they are just joking. it&#039;s really hard for me to tell. I tend to take things to personally. The thing is i really don&#039;t like when people tease me about things even if it is a joke. I beat myself up for events so many times after they happen that when friends keep joking about myself, it hurts even more. I think part of it is a small case of social anxiety, i get really nervous to speak when i am in a big group of people, so when my friends are teasing me in front of the big group i clam up and get even more nervous. I am pretty shy, although i really try hard to hide it and speak in front of big groups. How can i realize when friends are joking or not take things so personally? Is there a way i can learn? I have lost friends in the past because of this. My roomate now (im in college) keeps telling me to calm down, when i don&#039;t feel like i&#039;m acting very excited. Also, if i can&#039;t laugh at myself, i must be a pretty boring person (yes, i do have very low self -esteem, although i try to hide that too)</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Flora, post: 1993838, member: 226617"] when friends tease me or ask me questions as jokes, i answer seriously. However, they are just joking. it's really hard for me to tell. I tend to take things to personally. The thing is i really don't like when people tease me about things even if it is a joke. I beat myself up for events so many times after they happen that when friends keep joking about myself, it hurts even more. I think part of it is a small case of social anxiety, i get really nervous to speak when i am in a big group of people, so when my friends are teasing me in front of the big group i clam up and get even more nervous. I am pretty shy, although i really try hard to hide it and speak in front of big groups. How can i realize when friends are joking or not take things so personally? Is there a way i can learn? I have lost friends in the past because of this. My roomate now (im in college) keeps telling me to calm down, when i don't feel like i'm acting very excited. Also, if i can't laugh at myself, i must be a pretty boring person (yes, i do have very low self -esteem, although i try to hide that too) [/QUOTE]

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