My brother's girlfriend is telling all of her friends that they are getting married in four months, and letting people know to "save the date" around that time for the wedding. The problem is that my brother hasn't even proposed to her yet, and he certainly hasn't started setting things in stone with her. I'm not sure he even wants to marry her.
I'm not sure why she's in such a hurry to rush the relationship to the final stage, as they've known each other less than a year. In my opinion they have very little in common, and after the newness of the relationship wears off I'm dubious that it's even going to last. They aren't aligned politically, don't share the same religion, taste in music/movies/books, and lead very different lifestyles (she's very outgoing and he's more of a home body).
How can I tell her nicely that she needs to slow down and stop jumping the gun? My brother, who is a bit of a pushover, if getting overwhelmed with this and is basically telling her anything she wants to hear at this point. She is very immature for her age, and I have a strong feeling that she's more interested in having a wedding than having a marriage. All of her friends are getting married, and I think she's feeling left out and wants to have her day in the spotlight too. But, of course, that's totally the wrong reason to be getting married.
On top of that, she's planning this wedding (in her head) around the time that another relative is getting married, and he started planning his wedding a year and a half ago!
I'm pulling my hair out in frustration with this girl. What can I say that is polite but will get the point across that she is going about this wedding planning the wrong way?
Every single comment so far has missed the point of my question. The point is that she's telling people to save the date for a wedding before my brother has proposed to her. Maybe I didn't make it clear, but she is planing a wedding WITHOUT even asking him if it's okay.
And there's the part where she's trying to upstage my other relative who has been planning his wedding at that time for over a year.
I really don't give a crap about their relationship, but a wedding involves the whole family, and for her to be jabbering to her friends about a wedding date before my parents or her parents OR EVEN THE POTENTIAL GROOM have even been invited into the discussion is just plain rude.
I'm not sure why she's in such a hurry to rush the relationship to the final stage, as they've known each other less than a year. In my opinion they have very little in common, and after the newness of the relationship wears off I'm dubious that it's even going to last. They aren't aligned politically, don't share the same religion, taste in music/movies/books, and lead very different lifestyles (she's very outgoing and he's more of a home body).
How can I tell her nicely that she needs to slow down and stop jumping the gun? My brother, who is a bit of a pushover, if getting overwhelmed with this and is basically telling her anything she wants to hear at this point. She is very immature for her age, and I have a strong feeling that she's more interested in having a wedding than having a marriage. All of her friends are getting married, and I think she's feeling left out and wants to have her day in the spotlight too. But, of course, that's totally the wrong reason to be getting married.
On top of that, she's planning this wedding (in her head) around the time that another relative is getting married, and he started planning his wedding a year and a half ago!
I'm pulling my hair out in frustration with this girl. What can I say that is polite but will get the point across that she is going about this wedding planning the wrong way?
Every single comment so far has missed the point of my question. The point is that she's telling people to save the date for a wedding before my brother has proposed to her. Maybe I didn't make it clear, but she is planing a wedding WITHOUT even asking him if it's okay.
And there's the part where she's trying to upstage my other relative who has been planning his wedding at that time for over a year.
I really don't give a crap about their relationship, but a wedding involves the whole family, and for her to be jabbering to her friends about a wedding date before my parents or her parents OR EVEN THE POTENTIAL GROOM have even been invited into the discussion is just plain rude.