Hello. Growing up, I was taught two things that were considered majorly important:
a. Be nice.
b. Be yourself.
My problem is that, I am so sick of being myself...Everytime I look in the mirror, I don't think I see very much in me. I admit I do have self esteem issues, but what is even truer is that I am so sick of being myself.
So how do I do the following things to change:
a. how to be more funny and interesting to talk to. And more hilarious.
b. How do you be a good friend and make your friends feel like they are able to talk to you about some of their personal life. I have so much difficulty with this...friends rarely ask for my opinion on personal problem. (This is due to the fact that I am unable to communicate, I have social anxiety disorder). Even though i have friends, we never really talk about anything deep.
c. How do I earn the respect of others- being nice doesn't cut it. I don't mean to sounds cynical.
d. How do I stop being so boring.
e. How do I stop finishing last at everything? Everyone thinks I suck.
And how can I do all of this...without making anymore friends? (I don't want anymore friends because I have enough trouble handling friendships as it is, so I won't add). I won't loath in self pity, but I need a pathway or a plan to get to who I want to be. I am changing for myself because I am fed up with being myself.
I thank you in advanced.
Also, how do you be more attractive physically? (without makeup)
I feel like my friends are worthy of keeping (they are nice people). At the same time, I think they think I am stupid. How can I appear smarter?
My problem is communication: when someone is doing something wrong, I don't say anything, I don't analyze or criticise because I am scared that they will laugh at me. But when I say nothing, they take that as being dumb. Sometimes, I'm just too nervous to ask them questions and I'll do something wrong. Then they'll correct me, but I feel like they would think I'm dumb.
And yes, once my friends said that I was dumb and everyone agreed. I don't know if they had said that in the heat of the moment. The problem is that, how do I change the way they see me? Do you think they would have forgotten about this conversation that occured about more than half a year ago? My friends have been there for me...but...everyone gossips.
a. Be nice.
b. Be yourself.
My problem is that, I am so sick of being myself...Everytime I look in the mirror, I don't think I see very much in me. I admit I do have self esteem issues, but what is even truer is that I am so sick of being myself.
So how do I do the following things to change:
a. how to be more funny and interesting to talk to. And more hilarious.
b. How do you be a good friend and make your friends feel like they are able to talk to you about some of their personal life. I have so much difficulty with this...friends rarely ask for my opinion on personal problem. (This is due to the fact that I am unable to communicate, I have social anxiety disorder). Even though i have friends, we never really talk about anything deep.
c. How do I earn the respect of others- being nice doesn't cut it. I don't mean to sounds cynical.
d. How do I stop being so boring.
e. How do I stop finishing last at everything? Everyone thinks I suck.
And how can I do all of this...without making anymore friends? (I don't want anymore friends because I have enough trouble handling friendships as it is, so I won't add). I won't loath in self pity, but I need a pathway or a plan to get to who I want to be. I am changing for myself because I am fed up with being myself.
I thank you in advanced.
Also, how do you be more attractive physically? (without makeup)
I feel like my friends are worthy of keeping (they are nice people). At the same time, I think they think I am stupid. How can I appear smarter?
My problem is communication: when someone is doing something wrong, I don't say anything, I don't analyze or criticise because I am scared that they will laugh at me. But when I say nothing, they take that as being dumb. Sometimes, I'm just too nervous to ask them questions and I'll do something wrong. Then they'll correct me, but I feel like they would think I'm dumb.
And yes, once my friends said that I was dumb and everyone agreed. I don't know if they had said that in the heat of the moment. The problem is that, how do I change the way they see me? Do you think they would have forgotten about this conversation that occured about more than half a year ago? My friends have been there for me...but...everyone gossips.