how do i deal with a manipulative rude stepmom?

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these issues are somewhat minor, but there are still major aspects to it. my stepmom used to be nice, but got worse over time. she basically controls my father and tries to control me, for instance the volume to my game, it is not loud, it used to be the occasional complaining about the volume now she wants it OFF almost all the time, usually when she gets home from work to recreate for 90 minutes before sleep. on the other hand when im trying to sleep at 11 pm to go to work early she is loud and annoying, she stops when i say something but she can only comprehend my request for a few days. i work the same amount of hours as her and when i come home from work im not all psycho like she is. and i know i work hard cause on weekends i usually dont have the energy to stay up past midnight, like i did in grade school.

to confirm things, her room is on the other side of the house as me so my stereo does not disturb anyone else when they are trying to sleep.

about the major aspect of her manipulation, she has actually convinced my father for them to have another baby, my family is in enough debt as it is without some tramp seducing my father.
 
I totally understand.. my dad's girlfriend moved in our house when I was in middle school. She is so controlling and manipulative. Basically, I've concluded that what makes an "evil stepmom" is someone who takes advantage of all the "perks" and doesn't do the work that goes along with being in a family.
 
continuing what i just said above... my suggestion to you is that you should just treat her like a boarder. like a friend of your father's who just lives in your house for free, and keeps your dad entertained when he feels like talking to her. she sounds almost as disrespectful and bitter/resentful as my dad's girlfriend. she hurt me so many times that i've grown to hugely distrust her. she has the nerve to criticize my mother who passed away many years ago.

just treat her like a family friend who is NOT your mother and never will be. you can talk to her occasionally but don't get wrapped up in her messy emotional drama. because let me tell you IT IS PRETTY MESSY. and misery loves company, so she will willingly try to wrap you up in it if you get too close!

she's not a real parent, so don't be deceived. she's just some kind of decoy/stand-in. your dad is your real parent, but they are probably having relationship problems. and be careful because if they are, then watch yourself because they will use you against each other. she might try to hurt him by trying to hurt YOU.
 
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