How do i get more confidence to talk in front of big groups?

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maddie

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i am 14 years old and I am shy, i'm not that shy to a point that i cant talk to anyone at all. I have a very best friend and i have a lot of other close friends, i am in the 'popular' group in school but im only really in it becuase my best friends in it not because they really like me. there is about 8 of us and im happy to talk to 1 or 2 people at a time but when i get in to a big group i just sit there the whole lunch trying to fade away in to the backgroud and people have started noticing. i got drunk the otherday with my friends at someones party and everyone liked me so much more becuase they saw my real personality and i wasnt afraid to talk. Im really trying very hard to get over this shy thing becuase i get so angry at myself. I have always been shy but i think now i just have to get over it becuase people dont think i have a personality.
 
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ninjalsamurai

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well for one you need to be comfortable with yourself. if you don't like you why should any one else? what some people do is talk in front of the mirror or they just throw themselves (not literally) in to conversations. next time you are with your friends try connecting to what they say. if you like to be funny try making a joke or something. and one thing you should always remember is to be yourself and not really care what most people say about you. Because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.
 
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thatgirl

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It's hard.

But, it is mind over matter. I remember when I was your age; I was so nervous to speak in front of a group. It was so bad I would actually throw up.

People try to give you advice and tell you what will help, but honestly nothing works.
 
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