How do I tell my family and future in-laws that i am engaged when only 15?

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WelshyPrincess

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Hi i'm 15 (turning 16 2010) and me and my boyfriend have know each other since primary school and been going out for a while and in september he got on one knee and everything and asked me to marry him. my mum knows and my aunt and granddad knows that i am planning on getting married in 2014 but his parents don't know and my dad doesn't.

I don't know how to tell him, i brought it up in general conversation a little while ago and he didn't like the idea of me getting engaged until i am older, his mother would be happy to know that we are engaged but i not too sure about his dad.

me and my fiance are both at the moment in comp and doing our GCSEs in may 2010 and the college subjects we want to take are the same (not jsut because we're going out but in fact because we like the subject) and have stated that we want to get married, get a place and get financially secure before we d anything like have a baby so no need to worry there i just need help on how to tell my dad and future in-laws about what we are planning. please help
 
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Kim

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tell them if you want, but they will just laugh at you and not take is seriously, just like the rest of your family is already. Saying you are going to marry someone in 5 years is ridiculous, especially when you are not even 18 yet. Everyone thinks they are going to marry someone when they are your age, and it usually changes every time they have a new boyfriend. If you tell them now, they will just see it as a silly dating thing, but if in 4 years, you are actually together, then tell them then and they will take you more seriously.
 
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Charity

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Why don't you just wait and tell them in 2013? Surely they'll be more comfortable with it by then and it will still give you a year to plan the wedding with them!
 
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chilai

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i've debated about proposing to my girlfriend lately too. difference is i'm 19 and have been with her for 4 years. i decided we're too young though....
 
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PeachyKeenaJellyBean

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Seriously, you're only 15. In the few 8 years since I was 15, I have changed dramatically! You really should put off thinking about a commitment as huge as marriage at least until you're 21. You need to live your life to the fullest now. Being tied down at such an early age will only damage your future as a couple. If the two of you are still together by the time you're in your 20's, more power to you! It officially means you're meant to be! But you seriously need to wait until that time.
 
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Tinuviel

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LOL, awww, wait till 2013 and tell them you've been engaged all that time, if you're still together. Why stress about it? Enjoy your relationship and being young.
 
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Suz123

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I agree with Charity who wrote, "Why don't you just wait and tell them in 2013?"

What's wrong with the relationship you currently have? Nothing. Why not just relax and enjoy it for awhile? Enjoy it as is. No need to attach labels like "engaged" this early.

If you two are still together in 2013, announce your engagement then. Makes much more sense to announce the engagement when you are actually ready to start planning a wedding.

And too, waiting until 2013 will make the parents much, much happier.

I always say if you are living in mama's and/or daddy's house and they are paying your bills, then you are not ready for an engagement. Complete your educations. Start your careers. Work for a year, and save up money for wedding expenses and household expenses. Then announce the engagement. There is no need to rush.
 
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eqnatlchamp

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I would never say yes to a guy that didn't ask my parent's for my hand in marriage first. I think it shows total disrespect to the family. If a guy isn't man enough to ask my parents he isn't man enough to be my husband. If my husband wouldn't have asked my parents, I wouldn't have said yes without their blessing. He knew I would want his parents to approve and talked to them before asking as well. I also would never get engaged before I could take care of myself and was relying on my parents.

At 15, people are totally different than at 20- much less how different they are from 20 to 25. The difference from 15 to 25 is like 180 degrees! Go experience life first!

Maybe yall should have thought about this and planned a little better BEFORE getting "engaged"- hate to say it- parents normally know best.
 
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MrseJisTTC#1tt

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That's completely foolish. They're going to be so worried about you-- and rightfully so. You're both ruining your lives because you're hormonal teenagers. Graduate from high school.... do at least one year of college. Don't live together. Live on your own without help from your parents & see how you handle the hardships of financial responsibilities. Whatever crappy jobs you two could get with no education isn't going to keep the bills paid.
 
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AnnieC

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Personally, I would just wait until you're actually old enough to get married, and then tell everyone you've been engaged since you were 15. There's not really any point in telling anyone yet, as they will probably just try and make you see other people etc.
 
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