How do I tell my girlfriend about my bisexual past?

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I've been dating a girl for a year now, and though we've discussed our previous relationships and some of our sexual partners, I've resisted telling her about my bisexual experience. I've only dated women and have had several longterm relationships as well as many shorter ones, and I've had sex with many women. In between these serious relationships, though, I've met my sexual needs by having sex with a lot of men, in part because it's easier to meet guys for just sex without all the relationship baggage. I don't pretend to be purely straight and just doing this for sex, but while I find many men attractive and enjoy having sex with them, I've never had any desire to be in a relationship with a man. And while I've fallen in love with a few women, I've actually had sex with more men - usually because when I've slept with a woman it tends to be for a long time while with men I may only sleep with them once or twice.

This is a big part of my life and I want to be completely open with her about it, but I'm also worried she might see me differently and it could negatively affect our relationship. What do you think is the best way to tell her about it? Does anyone have any experience with this and any advice?
 
uhh i dont think she'll like that and i bet you anything 3 or 5 years from now you are gonna be living with a man .
 
if there are more risks in telling her than keeping quite, i would let it go.

it has been said people in general tell secrets because we want agreement, acceptance or approval. it is PAST (or is it?).

what do you want her to say to you about it????? do you seek her approval?

your motives seem genuine, but see how long you go out first.

as your relationship blossoms, that may be a better time. in the future.

however, be fair to her. if you still want guys when you are with her, that is now in the PRESENT, and you owe her honesty.

this is just my experience and opinion.

it is what your heart tells you, not what anyone, including me, thinks.....

good luck!
 
What she doesn't know won't hurt her... and for example, THE PAST IS THE PAST right?! And like, there should be no reason to tell her. So just be quiet. Because it would be easier if it's like not floating around in the relationship. Just dint mention it until you are totally sure she would be okay with it by her saying things indirectly about bisexuals. (:
 
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