how do overprotective parent harm their childs future?
~Blazin_Asian~
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One things is the fact that an overprotective parent shelters their child from the outside world. Then when that child experiences the world outside of their parents, they want to experience everything. Basically want to try everything that would seem exciting because in their childhood they never could. Such as sex, drugs, partying, etc. Its good to be overprotective to a certain extent.
My sister in law was overly protected growing up. She has a hard time with basic knowledge like paying bills, finding jobs, applying for college classes, her parents still control her life, they even did her marriage paper work and with out asking her they replaced her middle name with her maiden name.
well i went to college with a girl who had a helicopter mom... she was soo annoying... my sister and I went to hs with her too.. The mother was so strict in HS that the girl never learned how to do things on her own... when she got to college she went crazy and drank everynight and hooked up with so many people... she ended up getting kicked out... and her mom called the school and did everything she could to get her back in... if this girl did it for herself, she might have had a chance.. now she can barely keep a job...
shirizzleyofizzle
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From your title... my answer would have to be - if you dont let your kids stand on their own two feet, how do you expect them to learn to fly? Which basically, broken down, means if you always protect them and shelter them, and bail them out even when they're wrong and need to be disciplined, they will never know how to live out their punishments, and will always want you to bail them out, which really hurts them because they have no self respect and never grow as a person.
This can be taken to far, though.. because a parent is supposed to be a guardian for your kid to a certain extent. You can't stand around and let them get beat up, but if they stole a bike or something you can't make excuses.
Did that makes sense? Ah well.. have fun with your paper =]
This can be taken to far, though.. because a parent is supposed to be a guardian for your kid to a certain extent. You can't stand around and let them get beat up, but if they stole a bike or something you can't make excuses.
Did that makes sense? Ah well.. have fun with your paper =]
being overprotective doesn't allow children to learn to do things on their own. One example, if a bully is harassing your child, removing them from school and home-schooling them wont fix the problem, because the child is "running" from the problem rather than facing it.The time of adolescence in an individual’s life is the time in which one grows physically, intellectually, and socially. Overprotective parents have started to stunt the growth and development of a child during adolescence. The problems that stem from overprotective parents are not only seen during the teenage years, but also carry over into young adulthood. Overprotective parents create socially, emotionally, and physically dysfunctional young adults through their intense focus on success for their children, rather than caring for them and doing what is best for them. This, in the end, will cause young people that have been victimized by overprotective parents to crumble under the difficult situations that life has to offer during the maturing process.The damage that is done to a child’s social skills by over bearing parents is something that cannot be repaired. Overprotective parents either pick and choose the friends their son or daughter can hang out with or they do not let them have a social life at all. This decision is harmful to the progression of a child’s personality. ). The psychiatric and emotional setbacks that a child faces when their parents make decisions that are vital in developing their identity are damaging in the maturing process of the child. Their is more, but I am only able to type so much, hope my response was helpful, I also wrote a paper on overprotective parents, so I'm pretty knowledgeable about the subject. Good Luck
noahsmommy1
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I found this for you
"Overprotectiveness brings out the worst in kids."
-Psychiatrist Michael Liebowitz, M.D.
As head of Columbia University's unit on panic disorders, he finds that an unusually high proportion of panic patients report having had overprotective parenting in childhood.” (12)
There are many effects that overprotective parents can have on their children. Some can be serious and some not so serious. It can cause kids to go to extremes: overly shy to rebellious. Overprotectiveness often takes place at two main stages in life: toddler years and teenage years.
Overprotection can cause kids to be unready for the real world. When the kids do get out into the real world, they don’t know how to handle it. They sometimes react very seriously. Some have panic attacks and are more likely to have panic disorders when they get older. This is caused by not being able to do things by themselves while they grew up. Their parents are always there making sure they are all right and that they weren’t experiencing any pain or discomfort. When children grow up, they need to make their own mistakes and experience failure a few times. No one is perfect, everyone has to mess up at some point.
"There's decent historical evidence to suggest that societies that allow kids a few years of latitude and even moderate [rebellion] end up with healthier kids than societies that pretend such impulses don't exist."(6)
Some children become overly shy. This happens because the children are afraid of people and the real world because they were never given the chance to interact and develop their people skills. This is only the case some of the time. "Some kids are just born more shy. It also depends on how the parents act. If the parents are more shy then there is a chance the child is just taking after his or her parents." Reason for being shy are often because they were overprotected so they lack confidence to make their own decisions and they are insecure.
Children can also become rebellious. They get tired of not being able to go with their friends or go places because they are too young. Even though in some case the children are old enough and are capable of making good decision on their own. “Teens NEED to make their own decisions and make their own friends. They even need to do a certain amount of risk-taking. The parents' job is to facilitate these developmental stages, not try to delay or prevent them. I have observed that when parents are overprotective, teens are over-rebellious.” (8)
Overprotectiveness can really take an effect when the children leave for college or move out on their own. When they get out on their own they have been so overprotected that they just go crazy and consume large amounts of alcohol and other abuseable substances. They can be so full of anxiety that they become depressed or cut themselves or do other things to mutalate themselves. They do this because they don't know what else to do. They are scared to be out on their own because they are so used to having their parents right there to help them make every choice. (6)
"Overprotectiveness brings out the worst in kids."
-Psychiatrist Michael Liebowitz, M.D.
As head of Columbia University's unit on panic disorders, he finds that an unusually high proportion of panic patients report having had overprotective parenting in childhood.” (12)
There are many effects that overprotective parents can have on their children. Some can be serious and some not so serious. It can cause kids to go to extremes: overly shy to rebellious. Overprotectiveness often takes place at two main stages in life: toddler years and teenage years.
Overprotection can cause kids to be unready for the real world. When the kids do get out into the real world, they don’t know how to handle it. They sometimes react very seriously. Some have panic attacks and are more likely to have panic disorders when they get older. This is caused by not being able to do things by themselves while they grew up. Their parents are always there making sure they are all right and that they weren’t experiencing any pain or discomfort. When children grow up, they need to make their own mistakes and experience failure a few times. No one is perfect, everyone has to mess up at some point.
"There's decent historical evidence to suggest that societies that allow kids a few years of latitude and even moderate [rebellion] end up with healthier kids than societies that pretend such impulses don't exist."(6)
Some children become overly shy. This happens because the children are afraid of people and the real world because they were never given the chance to interact and develop their people skills. This is only the case some of the time. "Some kids are just born more shy. It also depends on how the parents act. If the parents are more shy then there is a chance the child is just taking after his or her parents." Reason for being shy are often because they were overprotected so they lack confidence to make their own decisions and they are insecure.
Children can also become rebellious. They get tired of not being able to go with their friends or go places because they are too young. Even though in some case the children are old enough and are capable of making good decision on their own. “Teens NEED to make their own decisions and make their own friends. They even need to do a certain amount of risk-taking. The parents' job is to facilitate these developmental stages, not try to delay or prevent them. I have observed that when parents are overprotective, teens are over-rebellious.” (8)
Overprotectiveness can really take an effect when the children leave for college or move out on their own. When they get out on their own they have been so overprotected that they just go crazy and consume large amounts of alcohol and other abuseable substances. They can be so full of anxiety that they become depressed or cut themselves or do other things to mutalate themselves. They do this because they don't know what else to do. They are scared to be out on their own because they are so used to having their parents right there to help them make every choice. (6)
When you are an overprotective parent, your child never learns to do things themself. My husbands mom did everything for him and now he doesn't know how to do simple things like laundry or balancing the bills with our income. If children aren't able to do things by themself, they never learn.
BLINK'SBACK
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once the child turns 18 they will go wild because theyre parents didnt let them go out with their friends and experence these things a little at a time
A child that has been excessively sheltered or coddled will have a very hard time being independent. It can be as basic as not being able to form an opinion without input from others. But in extreme cases that person can end completely incapable of functioning in society. They will have no frame of reference for things that people take for granted. Also, there will be a tendency to expect someone to come to their rescue any time something goes wrong. They are not mentally equipped to deal with problems on their own, never having faced that situation before.
mYOUbelongwithMEm
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Makes them want to rebel.
Search google!!
Search google!!
my mom is very overprotective and because of her i did the opposite and wanted to rebel and take risks. When you over protect your kids, escpecially teenagers, they will most likely want to leave the house as soon as they can, become a total different person because of stress and lack a social life which will be important in future jobs. When i was 17 my parents caught me for weed. I tried marijuana because they took my truck away and my privaleges to go outside because i got in an argument about them and being to watchful. Since they took away those things i snuck out, tried marijuana, cocaine, and just didn't care anymore. After, i wouldn't even talk to them and i started doing bad things. ( ditching school, not doing homework, drugs, etc...)
So, i recomend not being TOO watchful but let your kids go out, do things, experiance life, spend the night without having to call you every hour or one day it will most likely hit them and it will be bad for both of you.
So, i recomend not being TOO watchful but let your kids go out, do things, experiance life, spend the night without having to call you every hour or one day it will most likely hit them and it will be bad for both of you.
as the famous Dory of the highly-acclaimed movie Finding Nemo once said:
"If you don't let anything happen to him, then nothing will ever happen to him. Not much fun for little Harpo."
translated: children need to live in order to grow. overprotecting them only stunts their growth and zaps the fun out of life.
that's all i'm giving you. as for the 'good credible sources of information', you can find that on your own through google.
good luck!
"If you don't let anything happen to him, then nothing will ever happen to him. Not much fun for little Harpo."
translated: children need to live in order to grow. overprotecting them only stunts their growth and zaps the fun out of life.
that's all i'm giving you. as for the 'good credible sources of information', you can find that on your own through google.
good luck!