my girlfriend has had many problems with boys before and always wants to open up to me about it...im happy to help with any of her problems except that it always makes me feel like she still cares about them like they have something i dont and im so good to her do anything for her...now i just feel like the good guy but without the benefits
how do you feel when your bf/gf talks about there ex?
inspectedbysurgeon
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I don't know anything about your age, relationship, etc but frankly you shouldn't be THAT worried. There's likely a reason they are not dating her anymore and you are. She dated them which means they are a part of her life, just like her mother or father or siblings. They had an effect and since they held the role you now hold, the information she's giving you is relevant to your relationship. Unless she begins spending a lot of time with them and blows you off to be around them regularly you shouldn't worry. 
how do you know that in her own way she could be reassuring you, that yes you are the good one, who her treats her nice, who loves her. maybe she's trying to say she couldn'tt go back to that. it takes someone very caring and understanding to listen. so well done to you for that. its not easy. just remember it is you who she is with.
She's probably still trying to sort things out in her own mind. It can be difficult after a bad relationship to not assign all guys those negative attributes. I wouldn't take it personally. I would, however, just tell her you'd rather not talk about her exes so much, and suggest when she needs to talk about them she find a girlfriend to talk to. Just keep being a good guy, she sees it.