How do you tell your future wedding guests about your gift registry if considered...

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...tacky to put in the invites? sorry if this sounds completely stupid but I cannot make it out. I have read that 'etiquette wise' it is tacky to add your gift registry card in wedding invites. How are the potential guests to know which registry you have chosen and gift lists without this card in the invite? Me and my fiance just received a wedding invite last month that had the gift registry card in and i certainly did not think it was tacky. How the hell else would we find out they have signed up for a registry?

I am not having a shower of any kind and am not likely to see several of our guests before the wedding day - not that it sounds any more appealing to mention our 'gift plans' to a friend on the street.

We live together and have all household things and do not really want people giving us money. I honestly think the whole gift/money thing is tacky anyway and am happy with just people caring enough to turn up and share the day with us. But have have been told by my bridesmaids that we must do SOMETHING so people can congratulate us properly by giving us something.

any answers about this gift registry being added to the wedding invites when we send them out?
thank you everyone who has replied so far. Like I mentioned above we did not think it tacky at all to see a bridal registry card in that invite we received, but me and my fiance would feel tacky doing this ourselves for some reason and are against the procedure. Is nice to get several opinions about the subject
interesting answers. Are there people out there who actually get mad or suprised if someone buys them a gift not on their registry? My first instincts were right - this whole gift thing is rude & tacky. maybe we should just go to vegas and elope!
 
Begging letters badly disguised as wedding invitations. Nice.
 
It's tacky when you include too much detail.
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It is considered very tacky. My sister-in-law's grandfather wouldn't come to their wedding because he was offended that it seemed like they were greedy for gifts which they weren't they didn't know you aren't supposed to put them in. The rest of my family hasn't put them in and we have all gotten tons of the gifts we registered for. If people would like to know where you are registered they will ask. And most people do ask. Let the parents know so that in case anyone asks them. Spread it by word of mouth but don't go call every guest and tell them, wait for them to ask you. If they don't then they probably weren't planning on getting you a gift from your registry or heard where you got registered from someone else. And don't be mad or surprised if a lot of your gifts aren't things you registered for. Remember a registry is just a wish-list and guide for colors and styles you might like, not a list of demands needed to be met. Congratulations and I hope this helps.
 
oh who gives a crap about what other people say on the rules of etiquette first off i don't think it's tacky because you're right how in the hell are we supposed to know second THANK YOU for posting this because i was a little confused too but now i'm just going to add the gift card registry to it lol because it's so much simpler also they know what they want and our stuff is cheap and stuff we need
 
For my wedding I gave my parents and bridesmaids the information on where we were registered as well as a list for things that we needed that we had not registered for (some guests just don't like registries) that included larger items for family that like to go in together for a gift. It worked great and we go very few "doubles".
 
I have never known it being tacky in any way. I think that it is nice for the sense you sent it and the person don't have to call every one else asking what you want. I did it that way, and it turned out great~I was in the same position we have been together for 14 years before I would say I do. And so we had everything including the kids lol..But it is the meaning of gifts they want to buy it is Traditional it seems.

Just put it in the card!

Hope that helps.
 
Putting your registry information with your invites makes it look like your invitation is nothing more than a request for a gift.

Just because the store gives you those handy cards, doesn't mean you should use them. They would love it if you do, it is advertising for them. Do you want to help them at the risk of making your wedding look like a gift grab?

People who are interested in buying you a gift will ask your mother, bridesmaids, you, or anyone close to you. Word will spread. Even if they don't ask, they will look on line for your registry info.

Tell your mother, bridesmaids, and the grooms mom. Put it on your wedding website. But don't include it with your invite.
 
if you don't feel it's tacky then do what you want who cares what other people think. i honestly think money is better because then this way you can buy whatever you need plus people have Been giving money for centuries
 
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