How does a person get turned on for a nagging and complaining wife?

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I just can't have sex with her anymore because I can't get turned on for her. She gets mad at me often for not having sex with her and wonders why, but I just cannot make myself get turned on for her if it won't work. I tried many times and cannot do it because of the pain she inflicts on me. I get turned on for other women, but never done anything with them because I know it is wrong. Can any guys relate to this?


Mark

I never touched another woman the 25 years I been married to my wife, whats your problem?
 
I usually see this question from the woman's perspective... The woman is usually the one that doesn't want to have sex and has the "nagging" husband complaining about the lack of sex.

If this answer works for the women, perhaps it will work for men like you as well: If you don't start having sex with your spouse, someone else will. I know it's wrong that lack of sex is a reason for infidelity, but it's true that it happens. Instead of complaining about how much you don't want sex, and getting yourself all worked up before sex happens, just start doing it until you do get in the mood....... But enough of that trite advice.

If you want more than "just sex," though, you'll realize that you have to concentrate on improving your everyday interactions... A good marriage is not all about the sex...
 
yes i can relate to that my girl is overseas at the moment and it has given me time to realise i miss her, but many times i have felt like you, i was wondering if i was doing the right thing staying with her or leave her, life is too short to be in that sort of situation, try and make it that you can get away for a while and see how your heart feels when you have time out,? if you don't miss her make a break or see other women and get the guilts or enjoy your self but everyone has advise some good others bad it depends on you in the end, i have taken wrong advise and kick myself for listerning to some one elses advise, good luck be true to yourself
 
There is middle ground between the every day "blah blah blah" and sex. It's called romance and emotional connection. Try dating her. Remove both of you from the day-in-day-out elements of your life. Go somewhere for a weekend. Relax, unwind. Go to a quiet dinner with ground rules-- no work talk, no criticisms, no talk about the kids or whatever tends to trigger the "nagging". Reconnect as a couple, and THEN carry that into the bedroom.

But I also would recommend some counseling. Sounds like you two need a mediator to help you get out of your communication disconnect. In the meantime, quit fantasizing about other women. That's a slippery slope you don't want to get near.
 
its normal to be turned off by her since she is putting through some stress. you can get turned on by other woman because you don't know them and they don't nag you. You need to talk to her about it. When you don't show woman affection they thinks its because your not satisfied with them and you want someone else. tell her that she aggravates you and hurts you. Tell her thats the reason your not intimate. if she cares she'll try and fix it
 
Try marriage counseling if you still love her and want to make it work.
 
She is bitching coz she is not getting enough sex..show her who's the boss, slap her a little, or spank her..will do wonders..
if that doesn't work..tell her you have headache, and that homes are for relaxation, not nagging.
 
This is why I refuse to get married.. atleast to American women. They are b-itchy broads who think men get turned on when they open their endless trap of absolute worthlessness.

See, this is why women don't need the right to vote or free speech.. because they don't have anything important to say in the multitude of words.

Tell your wife that you won't hear it, go get a girlfriend to talk to for hours on end.

For a year now I been doing MGTOW or going my own way. And I gotta tell you.. the peace and quiet I have at night is unequal to any relationship. Its bliss.
 
I cant relate but i can say it sounds like you shouldnt be together if your not attracted to her even enough just to get some pleasure out of her. Sounds like you need to break up or you will both be miserable forever.

Or if you want to bury your head in the sand you could just picture someone you find hot to get it up then do her while thinking of the other person. Admittedly one time my girlfriend had a cold and looked a complete mess but decided she wanted sex, i was just slightly disgusted by all the flem and grossness (she hadnt showered in 3 days because she was stuck in bed through feeling ill). So i knew she wanted it and i couldnt get it up so i pictured Jessica Alba and bang it was as hard as a rock, by the end she was happy and i was happy she was happy.
 
I can relate. Been there a few times with her fluid levels dropped to hazardous levels. it got better over time.

Is she in menopause? if so, i feel for you!
 
Pictureshygirl I know it took courage to call out your fellow women but you have to understand men are not perfect, yes they can try to do everything to please a women but if you can't accept us making a couple of mistakes without nagging is all day we can't be happy. I mean who likes being treated like a slave having to do everything perfect all the time and getting punished for every flaw you make ..... Jezzzzzz cut us some slack guys are not built with the orderly gene like wemon are. And Jack I know you love your wife so try and seek help I wish you the best.
 
How to get turned on? By serving her with divorce papers for mental cruelty and knowing in your heart your sanaity is worth more than the wedding ring. DIVORCE NOW! You have grounds.
 
I am a woman but I still can understand. No one can feel warm and fuzzy for someone who constantly criticizes and complains. Now, this is not to say your wife does not have reasons to complain about. Understand this, most times when a woman complains it is her way of drawing you closer to her, as weird as that sounds. In other words, what she is really saying is this "show me you love me by what you do for me, by paying attention to what hurts me, by making me feel loved and needed"..Of course as you can see she is going about it in all the wrong ways to get what she needs from you. Men who feel disrespected often get angry and resentful. I have always said. most affairs happens not really just for the sex, but how good the other person makes them feel about themselves. Of course most females refuse to believe me on this and I can understand because of how their man treats them. But you can get more honey with kindness that with being a person who complains. Unfortunately most times women do not see it this way and begin to resent their guy, The sad thing is the guy pulls away from feeling criticized and then the woman is left feeling unloved and appreciated. One or two things happens after this. One, she stops trying and ends it. And no matter what you do to get her back she is by then convinced the situtaion is hopeless. Two, you go out and have an affair to fulfill your needs of feeling good as a man, she finds out and then the marriage ends up with more problems that it started out with. The solution is not to fight against each other, it is to try and read the message she is sending you when she complains. If you show her the love she needs you will have a happy wife. And in turn she will show you the respect that you need from her. Get that book "Love & Respect". You and your wife can truly benefit from that book. Good luck to you!
 
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