ChocolateChip
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My husband felt very strongly about the environment and also may have been a bi-polar manic depressive, but was not diagnosed as he refused to see a doctor.
He got baptised in his 20's in the UK. (Congregation no.1) Then he went off and disassociated himself and got involved in protests for Friends of the Earth and Greenpeace. He was arrested in the Houses of Parliament for shouting at the Prime Minister, but I think he was let off on the grounds of mental health issues. His family kept it all a secret, so it's hard to work out, but I read his diary after his death and got a bit of the picture.
He rejoined the JWs in Ireland when he went to live with his parents there. (Congregation no.2) His parents say that the elders had taken pity on him and he was reinstated. What happens when you are reinstated? Is there an anouncement, or was it that in his case they didn't let anyone know that he was even disassociated? He met me in that country and invited me to the meetings. The trouble started when someone had made the assumption that I was his sister and I explained that I wasn't and that we were engaged. This is when he got lots of counsel against being an aerobics instructor as that is where you meet girls from the 'world' like me. Neither of us could understand why it was against the bible to be an aerobics instructor and I didn't like their insults towards me, including a brother referring to me as the 'evil temptress come to take him away from Jehovah' so we both stopped going to the meetings.
After our marriage in the UK we both attended the meetings there and they knew that he was a brother and I wasn't a sister. (Congregation no.3). One day we visited his family in Congregation no.1 in the UK and an elder came up to me and asked me if I was a sister and I said 'No, but I'm married to that brother' and he knew him from the past. He asked my husband 'What happened since you disassociated yourself all those years ago?' He replied 'I thought that was all sorted out.' Next thing he is having a private conversation with his own brother and I don't know what was said. Then we went back to our congregation (no.3) and he spoke to the elders in front of me and said 'I disassociated myself many years ago and since then I got together with my wife here'. Then the anouncement was made that he was disassociated. However, his family said that he was properly reinstated after being disassociated and that had been over with many years ago.
Anyhow, I experienced a lot of domestic violence with his mood swings, after which he would always get tearful and say how depressed he was while they all weren't talking to him. He got severe migraines as well as the next minute being hyperactive. He attempted suicide when I was taken to Women's Aid the first time. When I got back he would say, 'you should meet someone else, I'm a bad person' etc. I just wanted a normal life as a young married couple with a baby and another one on the way. I don't understand your system of all this disciplining. Also, as a campaigner against pornography, I was truly shocked to hear that your people think it is a matter of conscience to look at page 3 of the Sun, while you punish others for their sins. How disgusting!
How can a person not know if they are disassociated or not. Do your elders actually contact the previous congregations to discuss what happened in the past? Like in most cases of mental illness, my husband's family kept it very hushed up as they were afraid of being judged by society as people do?
He got baptised in his 20's in the UK. (Congregation no.1) Then he went off and disassociated himself and got involved in protests for Friends of the Earth and Greenpeace. He was arrested in the Houses of Parliament for shouting at the Prime Minister, but I think he was let off on the grounds of mental health issues. His family kept it all a secret, so it's hard to work out, but I read his diary after his death and got a bit of the picture.
He rejoined the JWs in Ireland when he went to live with his parents there. (Congregation no.2) His parents say that the elders had taken pity on him and he was reinstated. What happens when you are reinstated? Is there an anouncement, or was it that in his case they didn't let anyone know that he was even disassociated? He met me in that country and invited me to the meetings. The trouble started when someone had made the assumption that I was his sister and I explained that I wasn't and that we were engaged. This is when he got lots of counsel against being an aerobics instructor as that is where you meet girls from the 'world' like me. Neither of us could understand why it was against the bible to be an aerobics instructor and I didn't like their insults towards me, including a brother referring to me as the 'evil temptress come to take him away from Jehovah' so we both stopped going to the meetings.
After our marriage in the UK we both attended the meetings there and they knew that he was a brother and I wasn't a sister. (Congregation no.3). One day we visited his family in Congregation no.1 in the UK and an elder came up to me and asked me if I was a sister and I said 'No, but I'm married to that brother' and he knew him from the past. He asked my husband 'What happened since you disassociated yourself all those years ago?' He replied 'I thought that was all sorted out.' Next thing he is having a private conversation with his own brother and I don't know what was said. Then we went back to our congregation (no.3) and he spoke to the elders in front of me and said 'I disassociated myself many years ago and since then I got together with my wife here'. Then the anouncement was made that he was disassociated. However, his family said that he was properly reinstated after being disassociated and that had been over with many years ago.
Anyhow, I experienced a lot of domestic violence with his mood swings, after which he would always get tearful and say how depressed he was while they all weren't talking to him. He got severe migraines as well as the next minute being hyperactive. He attempted suicide when I was taken to Women's Aid the first time. When I got back he would say, 'you should meet someone else, I'm a bad person' etc. I just wanted a normal life as a young married couple with a baby and another one on the way. I don't understand your system of all this disciplining. Also, as a campaigner against pornography, I was truly shocked to hear that your people think it is a matter of conscience to look at page 3 of the Sun, while you punish others for their sins. How disgusting!
How can a person not know if they are disassociated or not. Do your elders actually contact the previous congregations to discuss what happened in the past? Like in most cases of mental illness, my husband's family kept it very hushed up as they were afraid of being judged by society as people do?