I've tried those and had moderate success. Nothing very lasting, though. The women loved the "show"--you're so funny, you make me smile, etc., etc. Other than that, they don't know what they're looking for, at all. They say they want one thing, but really, they just want to get you into bed. I've got no problem with that, really, but be forthcoming about what you want--as it turned out, that's not what I was looking for. It's cheap enough to try, though, so out of those 2, I would go with match. You might also want to look into plentyoffish because it's free.