How should I deal with this - I always have to bargain with her to see her!?

[Munro23]

Sorry - a bit of a ramble
i've been with my gf for over four years now. I managed to pursuade her to live with me at uni and we had two great years being with each a lot, sharing our lives etc.
After uni, we both moved back to our parents for a little while. She is still there, but I moved out with a friend in to a a flat. I really wanted to live with my gf again, but she refused saying that she wanted to save up some more money/sort a job out etc. I was upset by this (she had a job, albeit not her dream one - and had enough money to move out) but I also kind of understood her position so respected it.
Now I have to share her with her mum all the time! She never comes to my flat without some pursuasion. And if she does come here, then there's always a time limit. E.g. she has to leave by 6 on a sunday.
I just feel that since we are both mid-twenties, both in jobs, and have been together for a serious amount of time, why does it still have to be like this!
I feel like i'm constantly having to wait around for her.
What do you think? Am i in the wrong? Should she be a little more willing to spend time with me? Is there a compromise we should meet?
It's really getting me down.

 

[bassboy92]

maybe she didnt feel the same way you did while u were living together so she just needs some space after being together all the time for 2 years...im sure everything is fine...maybe try going out more and not staying at your flat and she might stay out later

 

[strawberry_puree]

Sorry but i think its pretty obvious, she doesnt love you and i dont think you should stay since she's always like this. I have a boyfriend and if he asked me to do that, i'l be overjoyed to stay with him, only thing is that ive asked him if he wantdd to marry me and like he says he doenst know , so that hurt me SO much.

but yeah in your case, if she really really loved you , she'll be there and you wont hav to feel that you're always waiting around her.

BUt why are you always waiting around her, dont you have friends?stuff you do on your own? Do something else, go to the gym buff up.

I think she's bored with you. she thinks you're a loser who cant find anybody else if she left you. She thinks she'll find somebody better, honestly i hate this kind of girlfriends. JUst dump her. find somebody better

 

[BodyTechnique]

Sorry to break it to you buddy, but her mind is else where. Either concentrating on another male or female. If I were you I would let it ride. I know it may be hard cause you love her, but let her ride with whatever is keeping her interest. Why be a fool and stress her to see you. At this point I wouldn.t call her much less take her calls unless it was convenient for me. Just really sit down and think about it........Do you really want to have to ''PERSUADE'' your so called girlfriend everytime you want to see her. She really doesn't sound like she is worth it. Maybe you need to know your worth and then you will know who is really worth your time and dedication!

 

[>>>NoName<<<]

You are going to have to explain all of this to her. You'll get your answers in 5 minutes rather than racking your brain for hours for possibilities.

Sorry but you are going to have to ask her and explain your point of view.

And by the way, i don't think you are in the wrong. Try not to be too pushy and turn her against her mum because she will just get mad. Just explain what you've just told Y!A.

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[roddick]

most likely she is seeing someone behide your back, that's why she always seems a bit distant from you and it may seem like she's trying to avoid you.

 

[roddick]

most likely she is seeing someone behide your back, that's why she always seems a bit distant from you and it may seem like she's trying to avoid you.