how to balance friends and a relationship?

[Briannatt1]

so i have this guy
i really like
and i have this friend who i normally hang out with everyday
and she keep saying i ditched her
which i havnt
i hung out with both of them monday
her tuesday
i couldnt hang out with anyone wednesday
him today
i was gonna hang out with her tomorrow and saturday but she got mad at me and now were only hanging out saturday
and now he wants to hang out sunday
and i said yes cause im hanging out with her saturday

i just dont want her to think im ditching her
i told her im not,
im just not hanging out every single day
which isnt a horrible thing
she can hang out with someone else to
all she wants, i dont care at all
she cant expect me to never hang out with him
its not like im only hanging out with him, and never her.
cause obviously im trying to hang out with both
im not completly ditching her,
i actually told her she could hang out with us, if she wanted to.
but i dont think its wrong for me to want alone time with him, were in the beginning and not officially even dating...

how do i make my friend realize im not ditching her for him?
cause im not,
im hanging out with both and she doesnt like it
well....i dont know what to do, cause im obviously not gonna stop hanging out with him

i also thinks shes kinda jealous
cause she really wants to find someone and never has
and i've had a serious relationship
and found him like 4 months later

 

[ChurchGal]

i can get both your side and her side. but maybe yall used to hang out everyday, and maybe she's used to that?

either way, explain she's still your best pal and you are trying your best to balance between her and your man. dont tell her you think she's jealous. just hold that in your head. it may or may not be true.

do you talk about your man 24/7? if so, that may be why she feels you've ditched her. tell her you want to have a girls nite out, say, one day a week. just a night out with her and you and maybe some other girls to go out to eat, get your nails done, go out to eat, etc, and no guys allowed or man talk allowed. just a girls day out.

dont worry about this...this too will pass.

good luck hon hope everyting goes good for ya.

 

[aprilt]

She does sound a little jealous. You should really try to hang out with them at the same time.. it sounds like she's only thinking about her self and what she wants and not that you like him... But also put your self in her situation it's probably gonna take her some time to get use to...