How to deal with future mother in-law and brother in-law

[foxygirl1134]

My future brother in-law is only 16 and is like 450 lbs. His mom let him eat whatever he wants. And he gets whatever he wants because she feels bad that he's fat. He will eat a whole jar of mayo in one day along with a whole package of cheese. He eats that everyday with supper. He hasn't been in school for 3 years and doesn't even go outside to get any type of excercise. He sits in front of the computer all night and most of the morning and sleeps during the day. He only wakes up to eat and play video games. I live with them and it's driving me nuts that she's practicly killing him. My boyfriend and their Dad ignores the situation, but I can't. I need some advice or therapy soon.
And it's not like I'm getting involved in their life. And I'm only living there cause I'm in the process signing on my own home. It just annoys me that I sit there and watch this go on and nothing can be done. My bf and his Dad ignore this cause there is a loss cause for them. They have tried to help and nothing changes. His mom makes small comments like she would like him to loose weight and eat heathly but never follows through. It just drives me nuts to see it and know that I can't help. I like to help people too. But idk how to ignore it cause nothing can be done.

 

[Kylie]

You're not going to change either the mother or the boy.

I certainly hope that you and your boyfriend are NOT going to live there after you are married!!

 

[TreeAlbero]

Why is this affecting you so much? Sure it's sad, but of all the people involved, it should hurt you the least.

If you're living with his family, I assume you're doing so because you don't have financial independence. DO NOT GET MARRIED UNTIL YOU DO!!!!!!! If you do, you will sell part of your soul. If your inlaws help you with money, they have at least partial control of your life (especially if you're living there). I've lived with family while married. It's the quickest way to destroy a marriage.