IntrovertedGirl
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I dont know how to get this guy to back off. He is NOT my boyfriend and I am growing a little worried.
Alright I met him around a little of a month ago, and ALREADY he thinks he owns me. I mean, I think he is a nice guy but he is putting me off hardcore. I thought we were just 'friends' and then he bbegins touching me, you know displaying PDAS where I study. I told him i was not comfortable with this and that he needed to stop. He admitted that he liked me and wanted to get to know me, i agreed. But as of late things have quickly changed, I've begun to notice certain things he does that are red flags, first of all he is constantly questioning my whereabouts who i am speaking to and what gender they are. At first I thought "this guy is just being funny" but it has continued on and on. NNext off, he is possessive and clingy, he expects me to call him. And when i don't he comes and asks 'why didn't you call me?' and then retorts back to "I understand, you need space. I get it" And then he continues to touch me when i asked NOT to be touched, or petted, or hugged. he also gives me weird nicknames and refers me to HIS: "My little girl, my little bunny, babe etc" its very annoying and unneeded and attractive especially since we are not even dating. I am worried that he is under the impression that we are an item, he did not even ask me to go out with him. Yes i've hung out with him but as friends. Last week i said "we are friends right? thats great" he told me to give him a kiss, and i declined and i said "i dont act that way with friends" and he got angry. I dont know what to do. I can't tell him, i called last night to try to break things off. I chickened out and attempted to bring up other guys so he would get the hint. I mentioned "hey there is a guy you work with, whats his name?" he asked "why? do you want to know?" "no reason.. whats his name" "i dont know who you are talking about. why do you want to know?" I continued to mention and describe the guy and said "i think he's really cute. i've seen him before i want to get to know him" he said "what? no. don't talk to other guys. i dont want that." I said "excuse me? why not?" "because you're a good girl. don't talk to other guys"
I need help. Should I just.. ignore and distance myself or continue to be interested in others for him to get the hint? I can't tell him upfront about this because I am afraid for his reaction. he might freak out and I dont want that.
I am 18, and he is turning 24 in the next year. My friend is very worried because its not been long, and she really believes that he believes that we are in some exclusive relationship, and its not mutual but he thinks it is.
He is always mentioning how innocent i am, how inexperienced i am, how much he wants to take care of me etc. Its also odd that he mentioned "I want to date you, and then within the months make love to you and be with you" I freaked out. He's moving way too fast
Alright I met him around a little of a month ago, and ALREADY he thinks he owns me. I mean, I think he is a nice guy but he is putting me off hardcore. I thought we were just 'friends' and then he bbegins touching me, you know displaying PDAS where I study. I told him i was not comfortable with this and that he needed to stop. He admitted that he liked me and wanted to get to know me, i agreed. But as of late things have quickly changed, I've begun to notice certain things he does that are red flags, first of all he is constantly questioning my whereabouts who i am speaking to and what gender they are. At first I thought "this guy is just being funny" but it has continued on and on. NNext off, he is possessive and clingy, he expects me to call him. And when i don't he comes and asks 'why didn't you call me?' and then retorts back to "I understand, you need space. I get it" And then he continues to touch me when i asked NOT to be touched, or petted, or hugged. he also gives me weird nicknames and refers me to HIS: "My little girl, my little bunny, babe etc" its very annoying and unneeded and attractive especially since we are not even dating. I am worried that he is under the impression that we are an item, he did not even ask me to go out with him. Yes i've hung out with him but as friends. Last week i said "we are friends right? thats great" he told me to give him a kiss, and i declined and i said "i dont act that way with friends" and he got angry. I dont know what to do. I can't tell him, i called last night to try to break things off. I chickened out and attempted to bring up other guys so he would get the hint. I mentioned "hey there is a guy you work with, whats his name?" he asked "why? do you want to know?" "no reason.. whats his name" "i dont know who you are talking about. why do you want to know?" I continued to mention and describe the guy and said "i think he's really cute. i've seen him before i want to get to know him" he said "what? no. don't talk to other guys. i dont want that." I said "excuse me? why not?" "because you're a good girl. don't talk to other guys"
I need help. Should I just.. ignore and distance myself or continue to be interested in others for him to get the hint? I can't tell him upfront about this because I am afraid for his reaction. he might freak out and I dont want that.
I am 18, and he is turning 24 in the next year. My friend is very worried because its not been long, and she really believes that he believes that we are in some exclusive relationship, and its not mutual but he thinks it is.
He is always mentioning how innocent i am, how inexperienced i am, how much he wants to take care of me etc. Its also odd that he mentioned "I want to date you, and then within the months make love to you and be with you" I freaked out. He's moving way too fast