How to get my wife to see the good sides?

[ryan m]

My wife usally gets dispressed about the mistakes and other bad things that happened in her past but now she is dispressed about something diffrent. she has a 21 year old handicapped son and he is my step son anyways she has lost her parents when she was young like 5 years and under and she has said that she would like her kids to have a better life then she did and so she is dispressed cause she can't see how her handicapped son's life is better then hers cause since he has already lost his real dad few years ago and he is handicapped he has half cp and half down-syndrome so is there anyway to get my wife to see any good sides? so far all she see's that he is handicapped and he lost his father.

 

[phammett]

Oh man. I don't see many silver linings in her cloud.

Maybe she needs to grieve for the life she wanted for herself and her son. After grieving, figure out what is worth living for, and live for it.

I'd also recommend an anti-depressant to stabilize her during this.

I hope this helps!