I've been dealing with this for years. Certain points I think he really has quit but once again he has started. I've asked begged yelled given ideas ultimatums everything! I've explained I'm terrified of him dying and I don't want to be a widow and alone be causes he chooses to give himself cancer. I don't know what to do. Accept it and hope he doesn't get cancer!? Or move on.... I can't Imagine my life without him but the day we decided to b together I said I won't stay if he continues to chew... years later here I am. Still dealing. I just believe if I sit back and let it be I'm basically saying ok to his addiction. That's not what love is, to me. But how do I leave after so many years together.... And I really don't know if he will get cancer but nothing will stop him. His dad passed away of smoking...he didn't stop for his kids or me..... Any advice!??