Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

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Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

My husband left today on a preplanned business trip. I have known about the trip for a few weeks. I didn't ask much about it, but knew he would be gone for a couple of days. I found out last night that his female coworker from the company is going too. They are staying at the same hotel. I was kinda taken aback that he didn't tell me she would be going. There is another man from the company going, but he is staying at another hotel so he can do what he wants. Do you think he just forgot to mention this or am I making a big deal out of it? If I was going on an out of town trip and a male coworker was going and staying at the same hotel, I would surely mention it before now. The only way I found out is I just asked him in passing "who else is going?".
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

I think you are making a big deal out of nothing unless he has given you reasons not to trust him before, and if that is the case then you you two really shouldn't be married anyway.
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

Do you trust him? Do you know this woman? I'd let it go. If nothing has ever happened to upset you, then don't worry about it. A lot of times they book people at the same hotels on business trips unless someone specifically asks for a different hotel (this other guy may have).
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

Calm down. My husband travels for business on occasion with male and female co-workers and I have never thought twice about it. Why? I trust him. If you love each other and your marriage is strong, there is nothing to be worried about. Business is business and I doubt there is anything going on between he and his co-worker.
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

You're creating an issue that doesn't exist.When you travel for business you travel for business and have no control over who else is assigned to the same project/conference. He didn't mention it to you becasue it doesn't matter.
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

Being jealous won't help. But you know what will? A chastity belt.
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

You must feel awful about this. When is he leaving/returning, what is your address and favorite kind of wine? I'll come over and we can play "co-workers!"
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

I hope she does not show up at his door/room late topless. It happen to me on a business trip.
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

53% of the world's population is FEMALE.If he wants to cheat so damn bad, he will FIND A WILLING WOMAN TO DO IT WITH!Let it go, for goodness sakes.....
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

U didn't say anything about him previously cheating with her or anything of that nature, so i think that u are blowing things out of proportion. You have to be able to trust him, especially if he hasn't done anything that would imply that he has cheated.Maybe he was trying to prevent this very question.
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

It doesnt matter if the other male was staying in the same hotel or not. You either trust your man or you dont. He probably didnt mention because it no big deal or he had not planned to tell you at all and changed his mind at the last minute. He probably didnt tell you sooner for fear of you reacting the way you are now.
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

Don't make a bid deal out of it. Lots of women and men have to travel these days for their jobs. Don't jump to any conclusions. If you trust him, and he has not cheated on you in the past, assume he's not going to do anything this time either.
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

i think u are making a big deal out of nothing . If u don't truat your hubby why did u get married?
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

i go on business trips with female co workers all the time - it doesn't mean i want to sleep with them
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

Same hotel, or same room?Either way, you're building this up in your head. Making a mountain out of a mole hill.Do you have any reason what so ever to make you think he will cheat? Doesn't osund like it.Oh and he didn't mention it before, Not becasue he's trying to hide something, butbecasue it is a fact that is irrelivent to his bussiness trip. Even if he did mentione it before, would that put your mind at ease or even prove taht he won't cheat? NO. He could have told you she was going right from the get go and you'd stil be insecure and peeved about it becasue she's going. And he can still cheat if he wanted to.You're making too much out of this. If you don't trust your guy, then it doesn't matter if he told you or didn't tell you. You're always gonig to think he's cheating anyway, so what difference does it make if he did tell you?
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

I would not worry about it. He probably just didn't think it would be important to you and when you asked he was up front about. It is not like he was trying to hide it or avoid your question. Trust him unless you have absolute proof not to.
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

I also think you are making a big deal out of nothing.I am sure he had no choice in the matter and could not change it if he wanted to. You have to face the reality that he has female co-workers, some of whom may be very pretty, and he may have to travel with them. This means nothing.
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

I thought I had nothing to worry abbout when i was in the same situation as you then it turned out she was cheating on me with him while I was away on business - and its been proven that the perosn who is left at home is the more likley to cheat.I'm sure your situation is different though.......
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

I just question why he didnt mention it. That is what is fishy...
 
Husband on out of town business trip, told me last nite that a female coworker was going also?

Casey,I respectfully disagree with most of the opinions here. You have every right to express concern...it's your marriage after all..Re the background info you provided, Hmmm... Having a bit more information might be helpful. Helpful to know would be:- Insights about this other employee...Is she single/married?, her reputation? & How well your husband knows her?, ...- Your marriage...is it stable? (i.e, are you two happy together?, any suppressed/undealt with anger/bitterness?, do you communicate w. each other well? does your husband show you respect...does he treat you as 'special'?)- Did the company dictate the hotel arrangements, or did your husband (or perhaps, this other employee) exercise the prerogative to choose them?- Does your husband have a track record of being honorable & trustworthy? Is he someone with roving eyes & highly susceptable to the flattery & wiles of other women?- Has your husband thought through what level of contact with this coworker will occur while at the hotel? (meals?, transportation?, recreation?, etc.)Just some thoughts (re the above). BTW, I'm a 53 yr old professional married man (27 yrs to same lady), and I work in technical outside sales...occasionally I travel too. Please allow me to share some more impressions:Every male is vulnerable to sexual temptations. Accountability is a good thing, and such is inherently weakened while away from home. A wise man will both avoid opportunities for wandering, make sure his behaviour is always above reproach, and he'll also seek accountability with his spouse...this both builds bonds of trust, and is the loving thing to do. Casey, since I don't know anything about your marriage, I'd best avoid speculation. However, I think you have a case for lovingly approaching your husband to express a level of dissappointment with how he failed to demonstrate an adequate regard to you, his wife & soulmate. BTW, some men can be 'dense' to these matters, and need outside help navigating the waters or relationship proprieties, whereas other men can simply be downright sly & sneaky.
 
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