I am lesbian but I want to bind my chest?

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asilaydying

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I don't feel comfortable with them. I also want to dress like a guy, like a masculine hair cut, guy pants, and guys shirts that's all. BUT I absolutely do not want to be a guy, I like being a girl, and I like having a vag but I just don't like having breasts, not that I want them removed I just want them binded (I'm flat chested anyway)
I'm 14 and my parents will not approve of this (no one knows this, or that I'm les)

Anyone else feel like this? What do I do?!?!
 
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rachaellivestowrite

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Don't do anything that will estrange you from your parents.
Maybe wear sports bras that are a size too small? It's not as extreme as binding, but they're really supportive and will make your chest look smaller.
 
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Sam

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To bind your chest, you should use a proper binder(ie from underworks) but don't use an ace bandage or duct tape- the former is designed to tighten throughout the day and can cause breathing problems/bruised ribs and the latter can tear your skin.

Before really binding, I think you need to consider your parents reactions long and hard- will they kick you out? Will their unacceptable make you miserable? How will you cope with that? You can't go to university and get a good job if you are forced out of your house and have to get a job to support yourself. Dealing with it for a few more years seems a lot better to me than dealing with the aforementioned consequences for the rest of your life. I'm not saying that I expect that to be their reaction or that I don't- you can judge that a lot better than me. I think that wearing a few sports bras to somewhat compress your chest or perhaps more layers(ie a tight undershirt, a shirt and a hoodie) could be a better/safer alternative right now, especially since you have a smaller chest to begin with. You can probably move towards a more androgynous look without too much trouble from your parents, but do it slowly and over time rather than all at once. You can probably get away with a hoodie or guys shirt here and there, but not underwear and maybe not pants either. You have to be a bit careful about things like that if you have unaccepting parents.

There are many, many lesbians out there who feel exactly the same way as you do(have you ever heard of Ivan Coyote? Shes an amazing butch writer and poet who has written about things like chest anxiety a number of times before. You can find her on youtube)
 
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Shoe

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You can do it to some extent yourself, with a long Ace bandage. You can get one at any drugstore. I wore a small sports bra for a long time, but I found them too uncomfortable. That's like wrapping a string around your finger until it turns purple and you can't feel anything. At least a bandage doesn't have those pull-bands.
 
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anonymouse

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You get a binder. And don't feel ashamed of who you are. :) If you want to look like a guy but be a woman, there's nothing wrong with that. Heck, a lot of people (of both sexes) are attracted to that.

You can get a binder from many online stores. You can maintain privacy for online orders by getting yourself a PO box. You can start out at home with ace bandages or modified control-top hose, although they're not ideal. I'm attaching a binding guide for you.

Re, the "If you're kicked out" stuff someone posted: I'll just add that any LGBT person kicked out of their home for being who they are is welcome to stay in our guest room rent-free as long as they need to until they can get back on their feet, be that weeks or years. I don't want anyone feeling that they can't be who they are out of fear of homelessness.
 
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