I am meeting my fiance's extended family, but...?

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I am going up to NYC in two weeks to meet his family. We will be staying at his cousin's house who is a year younger than me. She parties hard. Like drugs and drinking a lot. More than most should. I'm not against either, but I don't do it. I just don't like it. My fiance said there probably will be partying, and that I should try to have a good time. Unfortunately, that means do drugs with them or get wasted, neither one I want to do. I'm scared of looking like an awkward person. They are all from NYC, and I'm from a small town in SC. So....I'm not sure how I will fit in. :( any suggestions?
 
I know it seems akward but I know that when we used to party we never cared too much if someone else didn't want to. We might offer stuff to them or ask what was wrong but if they remained nice and non judgemental and just said no thanks then that was usually fine.

You could tell them that you have drug tests at your job. You could tell them that you're on probation lol. Or if you guys go out just insist that you be designated driver.

Most likely though since you guys are engaged they will accept you and it will be fine. Just be friendly and nice to everyone and somewhat social so they don't think you're stuck up.

You should try to relax and have a good time. Have a beer or something but don't feel like you have to do anything you're not comfortable with.
 
You shouldn't have to do things you don't want to do. Just be yourself and don't do anything that you will regret later. stick to your beliefs. If your fiance loves you he wont pressure you.
 
Are you kidding me? How disrespectful of your fiance to urge you to do drugs. Maybe you should rethink this man who cares so little for you? If he truly cared about you he would never suggest such a thing. It's his families place to make you feel comfortable, that's what the word 'class' means, not the other way around. I would tell him (If you won't leave him) to get you a hotel room or you're not going. If he won't fill that tiny little request for you than find a man ho will. Find a man who will treat you better!
 
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