...overcome this? my gf and I have been together off an on for about 4 years. We've been thru a lot and have overcome a lot. at times i cant imagine myself with anyone else. But sometimes I feel like I need to move on. My GF is a very sweet girl who will do anything to help me and she loves me very much. We split up once and it was bad. She ended up with someone else within 2 weeks and he moved in with her. This deeply scarred me in a way because now I always feel like she might be up to something when chances are its all in my head. She made a mistake and fully admitted it to my friends and family. I know she loves me. For about 3 years now she has been overweight and it is starting to really effect my end of the relationship. She wont even ware a bathing suit at the beach or wear anything attractive. We are in our late 20's and i want to enjoy being young while we still can. She knows it bothers me but she doesn't seem to care. I work out 5 days a week and find it therapeutic. I pay for everything and she lives with me and she doesnt pay rent. For so long shes been telling me when work picks up she wants to do more then help out, i know her intentions are good but it just stays the same. I am starting to get really impatient, but i must admit, the weight is bothering me the most, I am not very attracted to her body anymore but I do love her for who she is. How do I tell her that these changes need to be made without being shallow? The truth is, i will stay with her no matter what but I know ill be miserable. Ugh...what do I do 
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