I am unable to meet new people. Why?

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I have a lot of trouble meeting new people. I honestly have no social life and do not even know how to get one. I am 25 years young, fit, and successful with no kids and no wife. But for some reason I am unable to talk to random strangers because I feel this awkwardness from not being able to conversation hop (i.e talk about random stuff) If i have nothing to say to you then what is the point? I can't just make up something from nothing. This issue is severely affecting other aspects of my life, especially dating. I can't just randomly walk up to a woman and start talking, the furthest I will get is "Hello, How are you?" and that is it. Then she will proceed to stare at my like "why are you talking to me again?" Then I'll get angry and lash out because I feel like I am being attacked. Call me crazy, sad, loser whatever you want because I am only going to feed off of it at this point, seeing that there is nothing I can do to change this.
 
you have mild social anxiety. i used to have ur same issue, then all i remembered was "ITS ONLY AWKWARD IF YOU MAKE IT AWKWARD" girls think its cute when guys have the balls to approach them. just start a convorsation. just say hey, you are really pretty. i mean no girl is just gonna walk away, you ahve them interested and slightly confused. they like you because you said they are pretty. dont talk about their cloths, say something about their eyes or their hair. if you mention the cloths the flags go up. cloths = body, body= sex, sex=hookup, hookup=NO NO. so make it about her, but make it about her smartness, her funniness. watch hitch dude. that is a good movie. just do what he does: start a convosationabout crappy pickup lines, its pretty funny actually.

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Start going to church if you aren't all ready. You will meet a fine lady to spend time with. Bars are the worse place to meet a lady. But make sure they are a good christian lady. Just because they attend church dose not make them a believer. You will find a good lady friend. May our LORD give you what you pray for. GOD bless.
 
Don't worry you are not alone. You should try with smiling at somebody and if they return the smile then start a conversation. about anything. try watching tv or the news (keep updated with things). You should also see if you can find someone with common interest. Like what you love. Or your favorite color, if you see a lady who is using a lot of a certain color point that out. Like wow that (the color) really looks good. Something like that. It may be hard and it took me a long time but i eventually got out of it. If you feel like this helped you some what or may help you just feel free to send me a message and i'm willing to help you through it. Trust me i was in the same state as you are. So i'll be glad to help someone out.
 
Well, it can be awkward to just go up to a random person on the street and start chatting.
Firstly, unless you see them on a regular basis, you don't know if they are involved with someone else, if they're gay,straight etc etc. So i can understand how that could be uncomfortable and nerve wrecking .

I think you have to be in the right environment first to feel confident in yourself (in a club, at a bar, maybe even dating site if you liked)
Also, perhaps you fear their reactions, that's why you are reluctant to make the first move.
Take baby steps, if you go out at night, and see someone you like, just casually say' hey, how are you?'.
If she answers and asks something back, then that's a good sign. If not, then , no worries. No need to feel stupid, think of it simply as a guy being friendly and making conversation.
 
Well since you are successful, you could probably join a dating agency or go to match.com.
 
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