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<blockquote data-quote="PaxB" data-source="post: 2665033" data-attributes="member: 885196"><p>I have 2 adopted children one almost 9 daughter and the other 7 son. Then do not know that I am doing this at all but about a year ago I started looking for there Bio family will the ones that are not in jail or on drugs. I found a few but mostly far off aunt, cousin stuff along those lines. I also found a 20 year old sister from there bio fathers side . She knew the children for about a year and a half before the children were removed because of serious abuse. I started sending some pictures of the children to the agency so I could slowly open the door that way my children can go throw it if and when they chose. (By the way the few time I have brought up there bio anything my daughter wants nothing to do with it. And my son does not seem to care they are ok with saying I am adopted but they will not go any deeper then that.) Any way I go a message on facebook, the sister had found me and told my she does not want any info from the agency and she would rather wait 10ish years to see them. What I do not understand is why would you want to go years with out knowing how they are doing. On top of that I know my daughter could change her mind but she really want nothing at all to do with anything from her past I will never push her but, with allllllll the horror stories I am told about who am I where is my bio family and so on I want to do whatever I can never to cause that to happen. But I want my children to be safe and not toooo confused. I want peoples points of view so I can make more sense of this.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="PaxB, post: 2665033, member: 885196"] I have 2 adopted children one almost 9 daughter and the other 7 son. Then do not know that I am doing this at all but about a year ago I started looking for there Bio family will the ones that are not in jail or on drugs. I found a few but mostly far off aunt, cousin stuff along those lines. I also found a 20 year old sister from there bio fathers side . She knew the children for about a year and a half before the children were removed because of serious abuse. I started sending some pictures of the children to the agency so I could slowly open the door that way my children can go throw it if and when they chose. (By the way the few time I have brought up there bio anything my daughter wants nothing to do with it. And my son does not seem to care they are ok with saying I am adopted but they will not go any deeper then that.) Any way I go a message on facebook, the sister had found me and told my she does not want any info from the agency and she would rather wait 10ish years to see them. What I do not understand is why would you want to go years with out knowing how they are doing. On top of that I know my daughter could change her mind but she really want nothing at all to do with anything from her past I will never push her but, with allllllll the horror stories I am told about who am I where is my bio family and so on I want to do whatever I can never to cause that to happen. But I want my children to be safe and not toooo confused. I want peoples points of view so I can make more sense of this. [/QUOTE]

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