he's really a nice guy. good tempered and understanding. but i find his ungroomed self disturbing. and he needs alot of my attention. i'm not sure what i should do. things are getting dull.
You need to tell him that his physical hygeine is unacceptable to you now, and tell him that you really like him and that you would find him so much sexier if he were clean and groomed! Then if he doesn't listen to THAT, then he is a lost cause and you should tell him that too. So then it is his choice to keep your or not according to his actions.
It might indicate an incompatibility. You care about grooming he doesnt. He is emotionally needy you don't like it.... or maybe I'm reading too much into this.
What do you share in common. Is there some goals you enjoy togegether? something substantial?
DIfferences aren't the whole story, they might even make things interesting, but what do you share in common.
And why is this a spiritual question? Are you married? is so you need to get used to the guy or tak to a marriage councelor cuz your in it for the duration.
Most guys don't like it when you get in a relationship with them and then try to change them. Either find one that's already suited for you or except him how he is. He sounds like a good guy anyways.
Or just tell him how you feel and maybe he'll reconsider. If he's just ugly, that's one thing you should just except, but if he's just not taking showers and being gross or whatever ask him if he could clean himself up a bit.