I don't know what to do about talking to boys, crushes etc?

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So last quarter at my college, in my art class there was this guy who became my second big crush in my life. He's really cute, he's got a funny personality. He's kinda got the skater boy style though but he can definitely pull it off.
Well I am the shyest person ever, I do not pick up conversations when people do try to talk to me, or when I do start talking I'm either quiet or awkward or I do not know what to say. He did try to talk to me some times but....eh I have horrible social skills.
Anyways, quarter ended and poof I thought I'd never see him again, but I went "Oh well, I'll just get over it and move on, not like it's must different from the way I never talked to him anyway"
Well the new quarter started and I got myself to forget about him, but then everyday I go to school I see him in the library and it makes me depressed. A girl already did the line "I remember you from last quarter, how are you?" to him. -__-
This always happens to me, if I like a guy at ALL, I can not talk to him. It's horrible. This is why I hate it when I have crushes on people, which is why I've only had 2. Both ended up the same exact way. It's really upsetting.
I don't know what to do, I really don't want to go up to him and talk to him, cause it's a little embarrassing for me since I kinda ignored him last quarter cause of my shyness. But I can't help but want something to happen where we do end up talking. I am not the 'first move' kinda person. I can't improve my self confidence or self esteem overnight. :C
Idk what to do. I've got no confidence or experience when it comes to boys, never dated or had relationships. Nor have any guy friends.
Also another question, EVERYTIME I see a good looking guy, I always think about relationships. I want to stop, because I want to have a guy friends where I don't think about that kinda crap. >_<
Helllp
I'm way to afraid of being rejected, because then I'll blame myself and beat myself up (mentally) saying I did something wrong and then I'll get all upset. I really don't know why I do this to myself, but I just can't help it.
 
enroll in some kind of public speaking class like toast masters.step outside your comfort zone and speak up.
 
I HAVE AN IDEA OPEN UR MOUTH ANS TALK HUN WORST THING THEY CAN DO IS IGNORE U OR SAY NO U WONT KNOW UNLESS U ASK
 
Be yourself, thats the best thing you could ever do, especially around guys. They just guys anyway. I know what you mean tho, you need to take the focus of the guys and focus on way to grow more confidence then start talking to guy you dont have a crush on, its easy then you will feel comfort talking to those other guys. But never be desperate for a guy NEVER and don't use those other guys that you don't have a crush on either.
 
Wen u see him just smile at him in a cute way..... Foot for a week...thn he will come talk to u... This time dint blow off yr chance
 
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