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So, today I found out my girlfriend of 10 months was cheating on me.. Well, I guess not technically.. She was having webcam sessions with some guy she met online.. Teased him about sexual stuff.. I don't know if I can ever trust her again.. I still love her.. I didn't overreact or anything.. But it sucks that I had to find out the way I did (snooping around her computer :/ ) Anyone know what I should do? I'm gonna try to stick it out, but it feels like the thought that she cheated on me is never gonna leave me... And I don't know if a relationship can work with that feeling. Help?
 
She was doing web cam stuff behind your back.

You were snooping on her behind her back.

A match made in heaven you deserve each other.
 
Snooping was a bad word. I was checking her message log with a certain person that had messaged her while I was on her computer. When the box popped up when he started talking, there was a little bit of the conversation from the night before, which seemed, well, TOO personal (like they were together) so I looked. I wasn't doing it cause I didn't trust her, I just wanted to see who it was and why they were talking to eachother like that, and now I know why.
 
Snooping or not snooping asside. If you don't trust her then move on.

And it's hardly worthy of hating life
 
One time I phoned a GF and there was a personal message on her answerphone thanking a guy for the great time the night before. I just left a message saying Bye Bye. If it's not going to work it's time to go, if it's knackered you have to think is it worth trying to fix.
 
I think you did the best thing there!

Indeed. If trust is lost it's a downhill ride. Especially in a case like this - if you feel the need/want to snoop from now on (curiosity would be understandable) then you're only going to drive the two of you completely bonkers.
 
In the words of the wise Ninja sage Keikai:

"Give her the flick and use her for sex"
 
Girlfriends' computer security is notoriously lax .

Now you know what kind of person you are dealing with. Either keep her for what it is or move on - i recommend the second.
 
My laptop's like fort knox. I'd love to see anyone get into my private parts. The funny thing is I have nothing to hide
And my other half would never dream of going anywhere near it out of respect.
 
It's still a bad thing but you should be lucky that it wasn't anything more. The moral principles of it are much lower compared to actually doing something physical behind your back. It's not really cheating either.
 
And these days anything involving the internet (flirting/camming online) is perfectly acceptable as it's only online. I don't agree but that's the way most see it.
 
I will pass on the numerous jokes opportunities, spooky was faster anyway

Unless you are an IT student let me doubt your computer's security! There are always traces of things left around. Of course (selectively) wiping the chat log is common sense if you have such a relationship. Me, i don't go around poking my nose in other people's computers, unless i have very good reason to do so - or a reason to have fun with someone
 
I'd like an IT expert to have a look actually. Everything disappears when closed, the previous documents wipe and any related files I've renamed so they blend in. Even logs etc have been tried but nothing found.
I don't doubt there's a way to at least find the location, but my IT "hacker" friends can't find it so that's good enough for me

And spooky and doug...
 
Watch it doesn't slam shut and chop your fingers off

The laptop. Stoppit now
 
Lanakin.....it is unfortunate what has happened, but you are only 17, and I would hope that this gal of yours wasn't it....go ahead and enjoy life, plenty other gals out there in the world to meet
 
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