I have been cheated on...I need to vent to anyone who will listen/help?

[MissMichelle]

I know that this has been a question asked numerous times before but I need someone to talk to because right now I feel so alone and heartbroken. My boyfriend and I have been dating for three plus years. When we first met we had this immediate connection physically and emotionally. I have to be honest, and I know this is going to make me look sooo bad, but he has cheated on me so many times throughout our relationship. I should have left him a long time ago. But I was so in love with him and he would cry and beg for me to take him back every time he was caught...so i did. The final straw was when he cheated on me with my best friend. Like an idiot, I took him back but always caught him "talking" (aka hanging out&having sex) with her.I have been depressed ever since (this has been a nonstop cycle for over a year). Mind you, I still stayed with him
He has been really really good to me lately. And I know he isn't seeing her anymore. But the damage was done. He destroyed the way i feel about him. Every time we would hang out I would be depressed as fuck. When we made love I would never enjoy it just because i would think about how he was with my friend. What made us having sex special? And last night I just couldn't take it anymore, so I finally broke up with him.
Now that you know a FRACTION of what kind of tool my ex was I would just like some advice on how to deal with this low low low self-esteem I have. I know everyone reading this must think I am sooo stupid for giving him so many chances to clean his act up, but I never found anyone like him. He was the guy version of me. He was such a handsome guy that I didn't want to leave him, because I thought that no one like him would find me attractive again (after my ex cheated on me with beautiful women, I feel so ugly now). If anyone has experienced this before and could give me advice on how to get over my broken heart and start loving myself again, that would be amazing. Cause right now I feel so low and so alone.
Will I ever love this way again? Will anyone ever love me? Why was I cheated on so many times by someone who claimed he loved me? What did I do wrong?

 

[Unregistered]

Adios asshole!

 

[ohgodhereigoagain]

here all i can say to you is he does not deserve a girl like you,,, he does not know what he's missing... think like that!

and you already gave him a lot of chances,, once is enough,,

and don't think that you will never find a guy like him... 'cause guys like him are BS okay, they are not worth your time.

have fun w/ your friends... go out!

 

[aprilpanter81]

i know how u feel i have been in your shoes Meany time my delf my ex boyfriend john chet on me with someone on line i was with him for a year a half leave now don`t stay becase he might do it anagin

 

[ladyzerima]

the guy doesn't deserve you so just forget him and move on. you will feel better but it won't happen over night. when it does happen you are going to feel silly that you ever even liked him. learn from your mistakes and choose wisely the next guy you decide to be with so that history does not repeat itself. for now concentrate on what really matters like school, work, family, health, pets, church, etc.

 

[XmXAkatsukiDeidaraXmX]

You're a beautiful woman. Don't ever let a man, a man who has cheated on you, or anyone else tell you that you aren't. You're a beautiful, strong woman and whoever doesn't realize that isn't good enough for you. Anyone who doesn't realize how special you are isn't worth your time. Lots of men would love to have you. The man you were in love with isn't who you thought he was. I understand why you stayed with him. Find someone who will treat you well, there's definitely a large group of men who will do so. You didn't do anything wrong. He did, for decieving a beautiful, strong woman like you.

 

[yeeeesquidward]

Baby we can talk about this. Stop telling yahoo answers our business baby. I love you and i want to marry you one day dont do this to us. Please. I love you. You are my everything. I am cow dung without you. Please.

 

[hellohellot]

im going through the same thing love. i hope you are ok. you will get through this. you have done the right thing by breaking up with him. it is hard but it will get easier in time. and you WILL find someone...someone that will appreciate you the way you deserve and make you happy. whats the point in wasting time on someone who would do that to you. you will find someone and wonder why the hell u ever loved suck a prick before. good luck, give it time and things will heal. xxxxoooo

 

[thresher]

I commend you in dumping this guy.This likes to be #1 that one of many possible reasons why guy and girls cheat.This guy was good looking so you might know that is another thing that's in his favor.
The best thing you can do is be aware of what guys can do.Just make up ground rules.If you don't he gets gets away with it.You know he will do it again.Sometimes a good looking guy isn't what you really want.
That might be harder to find.Learn by this read about why people cheat.
Not just on source, many.There are good guys out there you have to weed out the lousy ones.

 

[tLetteforlifetMMFWCL]

Honey you didn't do anything wrong. I understand why you gave him so many chances, you love him.
He seems like he might be the one with the low self esteem since he goes and wh*res himself around. =]
It's not your fault at all what he was doing to you, hes just not good enough for you!! You need to find someone that will stick with you and be loyal to you no matter what.
Just hearing the way you sound toward people, I'm sure you will find love again...just give it time.
Im sorry to say this but, he was probably saying he loved you because he wanted someone to fall back on if he didn't have any other women around.
It's gonna take you alot of time to get over him if you really truly loved him...but you CAN do it!
oh...congrats for dumping the unworthy idiot! You deserve SOOOO much better then him!!

My name is Marena...
If you wanna just talk and vent please email me at: [email protected]

 

[Arleen]

Awww...Im soo sorry. The good thing is that u broke up with him. If he tries to ask u back again dont take the chances. Try to forget everything that happend if not try looking for a guy that you would like and who wont cheat. Epecially ur best friend! Yes some person out there will love u as much as ur ex. U didnt do anything wrong u did the right thing ( broke up with him).
I hope i helped

 

[Jose]

dont give up you find some one i have been cheeted on before and it dosent feel good, you gave that person your love and your trust and they broke it, besides nn one is truly ugly youl find some one, i cryed for nights when my gf cheeted on me and later left me for the person,just because he cheeted on you with nicer wemen dosent make you ugly, it makes him look like a pathetic loser who cant apreciate what he has, dont give up, what hellped me alot wer my dogs ,they alwayes seemed to be their, if you dont have a dog or a cat try geting one they help you cope with the pain , i hoped i helped i know what you whent through =D