I think i'm lesbian, and i'm in love with a younger straight girl...HELP!?

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So i'm in love with this girl that i've been talking to for months but i'm not sure if she is sharing mutual feelings.


Hey:) Umm, so, I'm a 16 year old girl, not sure if I’m bi, straight or lesbian. Pretty sure I'm definitely not straight though. I first begun to get feelings for an older woman who i was really close to but had to forget my feelings because i know it wouldn't be right and would ruin her entire life if ever told her.
But, now I've managed to fall in love with a girl who is a year younger than me :| I don't know whether she is gay but when i was at school i heard that people thought she was a lesbian but had never been with a girl, just likes them, but if anyone ever confronted her about it she would totally deny it.
Although, we speak like every day, if we don't speak throughout the day we both feel really weird and feel as if one of us have done something wrong. Part of me wants to just cut her out of my life because she can be immature and act like she doesn't give a f**k about me but then i realise i couldn't cut her out, it would be so hard.
I don't know why but she acts so different with me when she's with friends, like on Facebook, she won’t pop up to me when she’s with someone :/ or if i walk past her house and she’s there with someone, she will try and act big and make me feel like an idiot :/
I don't know what to do :( my head is so messed up, i want to tell her but i think she is too young and wouldn't be able to accept my thoughts which would destroy our friendship. I was thinking/hoping that she just hasn't realised yet, and will soon but I maybe that’s just wishful thinking...
I SOOOO want to tell her but I’m scared she tells people because I’m not ready to come out and I’m petrified that she just doesn't feel the same which may sound selfish and pathetic but i think i really really do love her :/ I don’t think I could handle being told that she doesn’t love me.
I have no one to talk to about this, and if i had to tell someone it would be her but I’m sooooooo frightened. WHAT DO I DO?!?!?! Please help.
 
Well firstly, I can sympathise with the whole older woman thing. Been there, done that lol. An lot of me wants to say that this girl actually does fancy you, and this is how she is dealing with it. Avoiding people and "acting big" in front of them can both be signs that someone has a crush on you. Think about it, you want to show off in front of people you like, to get their attention or whatever. And maybe she just doesn' t know what to say to you, thinking of the right thing to say but it doesn't come out? I don't know. She could be totally not interested and unaware how much she is hurting you, I really think you need to chat to her about this. But it is up to you. As you said, if you can't handle the rejection then you wnat to keep your mouth shut, Sorry if this wasn't much help :S
 
Well firstly, I can sympathise with the whole older woman thing. Been there, done that lol. An lot of me wants to say that this girl actually does fancy you, and this is how she is dealing with it. Avoiding people and "acting big" in front of them can both be signs that someone has a crush on you. Think about it, you want to show off in front of people you like, to get their attention or whatever. And maybe she just doesn' t know what to say to you, thinking of the right thing to say but it doesn't come out? I don't know. She could be totally not interested and unaware how much she is hurting you, I really think you need to chat to her about this. But it is up to you. As you said, if you can't handle the rejection then you wnat to keep your mouth shut, Sorry if this wasn't much help :S
 
If you see no response (which your currently are not getting), select someone who will be a better mate. Many people "love" someone who does not return the "favour".
 
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