My fiancee is disabled, he was injured at 26 and received a settlement. He invested a small part of it and now receives small monthly checks due to that investment. However, the largest part of his settlement he spent on his manipulative devious family's crazy attempts at investments. This money was for his disability. He can no longer work as he once did, and that money was supposed to help him with his life. He spent it all on their hare-brained scemes, and lo and behold, now that he's met a girl and decides to settle down, he has NO money left. OMG!!! I don't know what to do? He knew at thirteen and fourteen that his family were bad people that couldn't be trusted, I've learned that in the three years I've known them. He's had his whole life with these psychos!!! And he spent his fortune on trying to buy their respect. Now when WE needed it, we're fucking broke!!! If I have to go out and earn the money to have my children, what the hell do I need him for? I don't know what to do!!!
The only reason he's still not handing them his money is because he doesn't have any to give. He's freaking 35!!! We have a thirteen year gap between us and I loved that because I felt safe in the relationship. I've had more stress with him than with the immature 18 year old who worked at a car shop I used to date. His family uses him as a bank account and still to this day won't repay him the fortune they took from him, they don't have it, because shockingly they don't know how to deal with finances!!! I don't know what to do! I love him, but damn. He never grew up! I wanted a grown man, not a young man with a broken spirit! Should I try to find someone else? Someone who knows how serious finances are? Someone who realizes that hey, if I spend all of my disability money on you, I won't have any for me or my kids? I can't even get him to take care of himself, what should I expect from the future?
The only reason he's still not handing them his money is because he doesn't have any to give. He's freaking 35!!! We have a thirteen year gap between us and I loved that because I felt safe in the relationship. I've had more stress with him than with the immature 18 year old who worked at a car shop I used to date. His family uses him as a bank account and still to this day won't repay him the fortune they took from him, they don't have it, because shockingly they don't know how to deal with finances!!! I don't know what to do! I love him, but damn. He never grew up! I wanted a grown man, not a young man with a broken spirit! Should I try to find someone else? Someone who knows how serious finances are? Someone who realizes that hey, if I spend all of my disability money on you, I won't have any for me or my kids? I can't even get him to take care of himself, what should I expect from the future?