There are some doctors who believe a glass of wine every now and then will not harm the baby. The problem is there is no way to research or test exactly how much is too much, or when during the pregnancy it would be okay.
It could be that one glass a day is fine, or it could be that one sip a week is harmful. And it likely also depends on when you drink and what part of the baby is developing at that time. There is no way for researchers or doctors to test this without harming babies, which is obviously unethical.
So that is why they say no amount of alcohol is safe during pregnancy. Basically, better safe than sorry.
In my personal opinion, I could never drink when pregnant, because you're right. Everything I take in, the baby does as well. So the effect I would feel on my relatively giant body would be terrible for a relative tiny baby, even if it wasn't dangerous to the baby's health.
My husband says the same thing. I just tell him that is why women get pregnant, and men don't!
