pastellgirl
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too fast? My boyfriend and I have only been dating about 2 weeks. I'm not thinking of having sex with him right now, but I would like to lose my virginity to him, I've known this for a while. He's the guy I want to share that with. We've known each other for about 7 or 8 months now and we've been close for that whole time. There was about a 3 or 4 month period where we weren't as close because we both had other relationships but over this summer we started talking on a daily basis and he became one of my best guy friends. I still have a lot of fears about him as a boyfriend especially since he lives an hour away and he had told me about a month ago that he wasn't ready for a relationship but then all of a sudden he changed his mind. Why did he change his mind? Does this mean he's ready to have a relationship? I'd think that if he only wanted a booty call he'd date someone closer by that could see him more.
Either way, I thoroughly intend to not sleep with him until I know for sure that we are both in love with each other and that I trust him not to hurt me. That's not the problem. He's not a virgin anymore, and I am. This doesn't bother me much since he's a 17 year old boy and it's not that uncommon anymore. He takes care of the women he cares about and I have faith in that. The problem is that I've been reading up on taking things slowly and I'm just so confused about pace. I like kissing and doing other things, but I haven't been very far with a guy yet. Up until recently I had no desire to go any further but my desires have been growing and I am now ready to progress further on a physical level. But after what I've read I'm worried that if I do things with him that it'll be too fast and he'll lose interest or think I'm a slut or something. I don't want that to happen, but we're both ready for things. What should I do? How fast is too fast? At what point do emotional wants and needs separate from the physical ones? Does he sound like a guy who would just use me and leave me? He's someone I know that I will fall in love with, I can just tell. Maybe I've already started but if I have I'm not that far along yet. I just don't want to get hurt or end up doing something I regret later. I want to take things slowly to an extent but I don't want to wait forever either. I believe the physical aspect of a relationship is very important as well I just don't know how long for what and such things.
I would like to point out that I DID state that I was not looking to have sex with him right now. I know it's only been two weeks I'm not an idiot nor am I a slut.
Either way, I thoroughly intend to not sleep with him until I know for sure that we are both in love with each other and that I trust him not to hurt me. That's not the problem. He's not a virgin anymore, and I am. This doesn't bother me much since he's a 17 year old boy and it's not that uncommon anymore. He takes care of the women he cares about and I have faith in that. The problem is that I've been reading up on taking things slowly and I'm just so confused about pace. I like kissing and doing other things, but I haven't been very far with a guy yet. Up until recently I had no desire to go any further but my desires have been growing and I am now ready to progress further on a physical level. But after what I've read I'm worried that if I do things with him that it'll be too fast and he'll lose interest or think I'm a slut or something. I don't want that to happen, but we're both ready for things. What should I do? How fast is too fast? At what point do emotional wants and needs separate from the physical ones? Does he sound like a guy who would just use me and leave me? He's someone I know that I will fall in love with, I can just tell. Maybe I've already started but if I have I'm not that far along yet. I just don't want to get hurt or end up doing something I regret later. I want to take things slowly to an extent but I don't want to wait forever either. I believe the physical aspect of a relationship is very important as well I just don't know how long for what and such things.
I would like to point out that I DID state that I was not looking to have sex with him right now. I know it's only been two weeks I'm not an idiot nor am I a slut.