Should you just give up on her and her sh*t?
I have done this before when I was about ten.
Every time I have let her back in to my life, she has just taken the absolute p*ss with her stories and trying to use me as a pawn. and proof, pretending that she didn't lose custody of her kids, she just tries to parade me around. it is so false and uncomfortable.
Is it worth pursuing, if she sees no wrong in upsetting you to the extreme while you are vulnerable and try8ing to get back on your feet.
Everyone tells me all this sentimental crp about 'she gave birth to you' and 'you only get one mother' but like I feel like I can't be involved any more. after I spent this year trying to mend things.
She has such an unreal view of herself and she is so selfish and dramatic, and I'm the one who has to be the grown up and organise things , and mend things. It's all gone to far, and she doesn't acknowledge the damage caused this year.
Should I go back to not acknowledging I have a mother?
What are your thoughts about people who just aren't suited to being a mother, and won't admit it or address it.
F*ck everything, I#m too p1ssed off right now.
I'm moving out of London soon, and all this time I've been a bus ride away. and it is always me chasing up them - my mother and my sister, even though I am the one fairly alone.
I can't be bothered to take this drama with me when I move, I want to leave it behind, so I have to take this decision, I don't want ups and downs, I want to ensure a fresh start.
Also, I get terrifying fears about ending up like my mother.
The main thing I have done to avoid it is to not drink,. but I fear all the addictions will catch me some other way, because thy run rampant through that side of my family.
Somebody help me save myself!
And by the way, I don't mean to sound ungrateful, it's just my mother, she doesn't even try, and I hate to have to take this decision, it puts me os on edge about if something awful happened in teh family in the future.
She just took my sister a couple of years back, even though technically she wasn't allowed to, and now she is quite cushy with my sister - who I used to bring up, and she goes to extremes in not teaching her how to be independent. It just makes me a bit mad that she is undoing my good work.
I'm turning into a bad person now just thinking about it all. I don't want it to be like this.
I have done this before when I was about ten.
Every time I have let her back in to my life, she has just taken the absolute p*ss with her stories and trying to use me as a pawn. and proof, pretending that she didn't lose custody of her kids, she just tries to parade me around. it is so false and uncomfortable.
Is it worth pursuing, if she sees no wrong in upsetting you to the extreme while you are vulnerable and try8ing to get back on your feet.
Everyone tells me all this sentimental crp about 'she gave birth to you' and 'you only get one mother' but like I feel like I can't be involved any more. after I spent this year trying to mend things.
She has such an unreal view of herself and she is so selfish and dramatic, and I'm the one who has to be the grown up and organise things , and mend things. It's all gone to far, and she doesn't acknowledge the damage caused this year.
Should I go back to not acknowledging I have a mother?
What are your thoughts about people who just aren't suited to being a mother, and won't admit it or address it.
F*ck everything, I#m too p1ssed off right now.
I'm moving out of London soon, and all this time I've been a bus ride away. and it is always me chasing up them - my mother and my sister, even though I am the one fairly alone.
I can't be bothered to take this drama with me when I move, I want to leave it behind, so I have to take this decision, I don't want ups and downs, I want to ensure a fresh start.
Also, I get terrifying fears about ending up like my mother.
The main thing I have done to avoid it is to not drink,. but I fear all the addictions will catch me some other way, because thy run rampant through that side of my family.
Somebody help me save myself!
And by the way, I don't mean to sound ungrateful, it's just my mother, she doesn't even try, and I hate to have to take this decision, it puts me os on edge about if something awful happened in teh family in the future.
She just took my sister a couple of years back, even though technically she wasn't allowed to, and now she is quite cushy with my sister - who I used to bring up, and she goes to extremes in not teaching her how to be independent. It just makes me a bit mad that she is undoing my good work.
I'm turning into a bad person now just thinking about it all. I don't want it to be like this.