If your gf/bf checked your cellphone and found nothing incriminating and

MGSA

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admitted to checking your? If your girlfriend/boyfriend checked your cellphone and found nothing incriminating and later on admitted to checking your cellphone when you were in the shower, what would you do? Has the trust been broken? Would you forgive her/him for evading your privacy? Would brake up with them because of this?
 

SirChino

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i would forgive but be sure you make him realize too that looking on ones cellphone is not good, your cellphone is your own private possession and he should not be looking at it. in that case, when he is looking at your phone, it can already be an instance of mistrust to you. if he trusts you, he must not do it again...
 

Cursed_Romantic

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The trust would definitely be broken or at the very least fractured for me if this is a first time thing that he had done. But it would really speak volumes about how much he really trusts me to begin with if he is going through my phone like that. I mean trust is a two way street and is about giving your s/o the benefit of the doubt more often than not. And if you can't do that and have this driving need to pry into their personal business like that, then that means there is something not right with the significant other and the relationship.

And I think if it was a first time thing, I would want to have a open conversation about why can't he trust me and what he was thinking or expecting to find in my phone. Pretty much lay all the cards bare about what was going on and where everyone's feelings would be. And after that is done, I wouldn't necessarily break up with him again if it was a first time offense. But HE would have to be the one to re-build my trust in him again now and he would have to show me through his actions that he respects my space and privacy as well. Because if he does the same thing again, then I would definitely break up with him. I take my privacy and personal space very seriously as I have so very little of it, where I'm not judged and where I can just be me. And I don't think I or anyone else should have that space violated or disrespected just for the sake of making someone else feel secure about themselves. Just not something I could abide by too many times.
 

Jessica

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I would smugly forgive them. Tell them they found out they have no reason to be insecure and to get over it already. Also explain that your privacy is important to you and you don't appreciate it not being invaded. So for future reference, if you want to see something in my phone... ask!
 

Victoria

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i check my bf's phone all the time. he gets annoyed about it but he knows i have trust issues because of some things i've been through. usually i ask straight up and he'll willingly hand me his phone so i dont think it really matters.
 

bustercube

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Breaking up with someone over this seems a little too harsh. Sure they invaded your privacy, and you have a right to be angry, but did it hurt you that bad? I might ask the person why they needed to check my phone, and what their reason for suspecting me of cheating. I would also ask them to not do this again, and how would they feel if I read their e-mails or diary without their knowledge. Try to forgive and forget.

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