I'm a really jealous girlfriend due to my past and i'm so scared its going to...

[KaryMorrison1]

...destroy the relationship im in? Before my current boyfriend, i had a boyfriend well kind of. He was my boyfriend for a week but for two years for some reason i was latched onto him and i was his "best friend" and hed have sex with other girls all the time, sometimes next to me knowing i still really like him and for awhile we would still have sex and hed point out all my flaws so rudely he was pretty much an asshole and i have no idea why i put up with him or followed him around he wasnt even that attractive i guess you learn from your mistakes
my current boyfriend is flawless though i love him so much hes perfect he takes care of me and shows me unconditional love and isnt even too clingy and were just such a good combination
but you see its almost a year now without any fights or ANYTHING until recently im starting things..im noticing im very jealous it bothers me so much when he hugs girls around the waist or i see pictures with his hands around their waist or i hear how these girls would be "down to hook up with him" from other people
hes nothing like that when i stop and think and my friends remind me that hes nothing like that its just i make all these scenarios in my head and i could tell its starting to annoy him even though he hasnt said anything. but its from my past "relationship" i know and i dont know how to stop and i want to before i ruin anything
i tell him all of this and he tells me the relationship wont be ruined if i dont want it to be

of course i dont want it to be ruined but im turning into crazy girlfriend and i can unconsciously do it and i need to stop, i think i was a little bit like this in the first place though but i just didnt tell him because i wasnt as comfortable with him yet

ahh help
and i honestly dont mind him hugging girls, i hug other guys but i guess the body language
i dont think hes conscious about it
see its not even him, and i realize im just being stupid hes never intentionally doing anything wrong
and i brought it up to him once when i was drunk when we first started dating and he stopped doing that
you know hes actually a gemini and im an aquarius hahaahaha
no im not bored everythings usually fine when im with him but when im home looking at pictures of a previous night or something or when im not with him i ponder about how hes going to cheat on me or something

 

[skull]

you're bored. Cz he's 2 good to you. is your birthday anytime around the middle of may to late june, by any chance?
you sound like a gemini.

 

[Jake1]

i know how you feel except im a guy ahha i cant stand that umm hmm i think you should bring it up tell him how it is tell him i dont like when girls say this stuff and i dont like when girls hug you and when you hug girls say i think its kinda disrespectful to me and then ask him if he can stop it for you and if he cant then that is basicly saying he wont do anything for you and if he loved you believe me he woould do anything for you just to make you happy because knowiing that your upset about that should bring him down if he loved you but not doing it anymore and making you happy should make you both happy because he would be happy that your happy = ) so just bring it up to him and see what his feelings really are .... remember you only live life once take a chance see what he really cares about more you or himself i hope this helped

 

[BrandonL]

That's how it goes in a relationship.At first your just really trying to get to know that person then as time goes on you just want that person for yourself.You said he is flawless so I guess that means you trust him.Then really trust him.I will tell you if you start taking his freedom away to be himself you will lose him.Girls will like him you found him attractive so other girls will do the same.Here's the thing he is with you and not them.If you tell him he can't hug or be friends with other girls that will only upset him.That is called taking his freedom away.You like freedom right I think everyone does.You said he has not wronged you yet then I would not worry about that until it happens.I know its already happened in your mind but that's only a thought and your thoughts will lie to you.I know your in your past relationships somethings might of happened but the relationship that your in right now is not a past relationship.As hard as this might seem all guys are not the same.The thing is you might have someone who really loves you and just because something that happened to you before might come back into your mind and ruin things.Then you might lose the love of your life.


Hope this helped in any way