I'm Angry as hell, help me out here.?

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I have a situation here on my hands and it's not even something huge but it's making more angry than I have ever been in my life and I'm really not a person who gets angry at all.
Ok I'm pretty much the only person in my house that does everything and I mean everything. On top of doing quite well in university, I come home, I do dishes, sweep, mop, vaccuum, do the laugndry- all of the housework really AND I cook frequently. My sister here is perfectly capable to just help out a little but if I ask her to do something she'll do it so SHIT, I'll just have to do it over again because she doesn't do it properly.
The part that really gets to me is that she doesnt get punished at all, she just gets to keep on doing whatever it is that she does, now this angers me b/c at her age if I put a toe out of line I'd be surely punished.
I feel like I'm the only one in my entire house who the rules apply to and I'm sick of everyone getting off easy except me. It's a pathetic rant but still, help?
 
I know what you're going through. I was the same way. Maybe try teaching your sister how to do the task properly, kinda work together to clean so you're both working together, and you teach her the proper way to get things done. You could try talking to your parents about how poorly your sister does with the cleaning, and tell them you feel like you're being overworked because of the fact that you go back through and clean what she does. but I would try teaching her too.

Or try what the first guy said and try going without doing chores and if you're punished tell your parents that you shouldnt be the one always getting the blame and punishment on, that you're tired of the one getting things done and that you want more help from your sister, with the same rules and punishment applied to her, that she needs to do it right the first time, or that they need to see to it that she does it again.
 
stop doing it all no one can possibly do it all you need ot relax and let things go. i know it is easier said than done but belive me it is not worth getting angry abotu been there and still dealign with letting things go and trying to realize that i can't do it all and once yrou family sees that oh hey this is done or that isn't getting doen then they will wake up and realize that they need to step up and help out witht eh household chores. they live there to and need to help otu also you hsouldn't have ot do it all all the the time. my mom and i try to split things fifty fifty in our house we both work she works two jobs and i work til like four and dont' get home til almost five but we share the chores and get things done that way talk to a parent about thsi issue also and please take a step back and try nto to do it all at least for you health good luck
 
Cool down, hon. Look,, perhaps you should just ask your sis to do part of the work...and do not do it over again. You cannot expect everything to be perfect. As long as she has done her part...you should be happy. But when you insist that she does a good job like you...you are just making yourself angrier. Just be more jovial....
 
Don't know if you are living at home or not, but it sounds like it. Sounds like a discreet chat with a parent might be in order.

Failing that, a job action on your part might be in order. In other words, stop doing everything (or at least a few things) and see how people react.

Unfairness always produces anger. Don't feel guilty about it; take steps to improve the situation.
 
My suggestion is not to do as much around the house and see if anybody else pitches in. If not, maybe all the time that you spend cleaning, vacuuming and cooking could be actually used to get a job if you want to live on your own, this way your family is solely responsible of cleaning up after themselves... Maybe get a roommate and split the costs of renting an apartment. But as far as that, you might also want to sit everyone down and talk to them about the chores and such. Don't keep it all end, talk it out. If there is no improvement, move out... I wish you luck.
 
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