I'm scared to meet an online date?

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I met tis guy on an online dating site, he's 25, I'm 20. We added each other on facebook and we've been chatting and im'ing online for a good long while. He then messaged me his number and asked for mine, he wants to meet up for drinks sometime he said. The thing is I am really nervous about him, so much so that I'm almost thinking of ignoring him!

How will get over my nervousness of meeting him??? I mean what do I do when I meet him there, hug him, shake his hand???? please help!
 
If you don't feel right about it then i wouldn't do it... Go with your gut girl :)
But if you really think you should do this bring a friend or 2 along :P
and then after you feel safe and okay your friends can always make up an excuse to slip out
Or if you don't wanna bring the friends along tell them to meet you there and act like you guys are just bumping into each other :)
 
Take a friend or family member with you or tell them to be at the same resteraunt, store, etc that you an your date are going to because online dating is dangerous and a lot of people on those sites aren't who they say they are. Good luck and stay safe!
 
Let him lead things. He asked for the date. And if he doesn't go in for a hug or anything, then don't do it yourself. Keep things light and fun. Just meet as friends and talk about the weekend, sports, news, friends, family, etc. Meet in somewhere really public and make sure a friend knows where youll be and give him or her a time limit. Say if you haven't messaged her within an hour meeting him, she will show up to the place to make sure you're alright, etc.
 
Have you actually spoke because you need to before doing this.
Know where you are going and make sure others know where you are going too.
It's up to him to make the first impression and not you because your the female.

People can say all the right thing online so make sure you speak extensively first.
There are so many Nigerians, old man and eastern europeans pretending to be good looking man and women.
 
I met my woman online. First dates are always kinda awkward, then you throw in the mix that you've never even met the guy and it gets more awkward. If you don't want to meat him, just block him. If you do, meat at a public place where there are a lot of people. Don't get there at the same time. Park in front under a light. Don't order a drink. Just do dinner, then talk for about 30 minutes, then go. He's probably going to be more nervous than you, because guys have to put up the front. But don't risk your safety on a first date. Make him work for it.
 
why not bring a friend make it more of a social event then if you decide he isn't a creep meet up alone. juts say hi or maybe a hug then handshake would probably be perceived as queer
 
Just make sure its a very well lit and public place for the first meeting. And have one of your friends call you at least twice during the date.
 
Well, you've been chatting and IMing for a while... So that's the first step. Does he seem like someone you'd get along with? Are you interested in him? Is he attractive to you?

If all of the above answers are yes, then take it to stage two: the phone. Have text conversations... And even a few calls mixed in. Hearing his voice a few times should help you calm down a little bit.

If all still seems well, then go for meeting him somewhere... But make it public, like a mall. Never meet someone online in a bar or something... That has the potential to be dangerous. Unfamiliar environment with an unfamiliar person. For all you know, he could slip you something in your drink and you'll find yourself on the sidewalk the next morning.

Just use common sense and be safe...
 
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