srfangelchc
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- Feb 23, 2010
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My boyfriend's friends (particularly one girl) continually fuels drama in my relationship. And this is their second time doing so (first time nearly ended my relationship). I recently had a fight with my bf, which resulted in a temporary (4 day) split. I've been hanging with his friends nearly every weekend. And we've all been having fun. I thought that I could truly call them friends. However, I found that to be wrong. During our break, I found out that the (girl) friend sent him several texts saying that an end to our relationship is a "good thing," that I can't communicate (ironic since I'm a communications major), and that I don't love him. I was enraged because I thought that she was my friend as well. I never knew someone so backstabbing. She acts like she's my friend, but right when my back is turned she says horrible things about me. She even wrote me a few days before that she hoped everything worked out between my bf and I.
For one, I hate that my bf lied to me, saying that his friends were completely staying neutral. Secondly, I dislike how he defends his friends instead of me. He ultimately claims that it's only natural that she said those things in order to make him feel better. & he excuses her behavior because we were broken up at the time. I cannot accept this. This is the second time she has pretended to be a "good" & caring person. Not only does her behavior bother me, but I sense that nothing good can come from his friendship w/ her (at least for me). My bf simply wants me to ignore what she said, but I can't! I've never met someone so untrustworthy. I refuse to be in a relationship that's surrounded or heavily influenced by people who either ruin or make my relationship purposely difficult and dramatic. I just don't understand how my bf thinks it's okay for me to accept his friends who clearly have no interest in giving fair, well-informed advice. & I somehow become the enemy when I try so hard to act like a true friend to these people. I just can't seem to win. They will obviously just narrowly take his side on everything because he met them first and texts them more (pathetic I know, but I'm honestly not exaggerating).
I know people will say friends always side w/ their friends. But FYI, my friends are respectable people who don't always take my side; they try to find ways to improve my relationship, and they want to see things from a boyfriend's point of view. Even my bf likes my close friends. In short, I honestly don't think it's a good idea for my bf to associate w/ these people. It nearly ended our relationship before, and history seems to be repeating itself. It's not like I want him to have no friends---just better friends. Personally, I'm tired of dealing w/ this drama & these people who neglect to acknowledge exactly who I am---a friendly, caring, aware, and observant individual who has nothing but good intentions. So, what would you do as a boyfriend or girlfriend?
For one, I hate that my bf lied to me, saying that his friends were completely staying neutral. Secondly, I dislike how he defends his friends instead of me. He ultimately claims that it's only natural that she said those things in order to make him feel better. & he excuses her behavior because we were broken up at the time. I cannot accept this. This is the second time she has pretended to be a "good" & caring person. Not only does her behavior bother me, but I sense that nothing good can come from his friendship w/ her (at least for me). My bf simply wants me to ignore what she said, but I can't! I've never met someone so untrustworthy. I refuse to be in a relationship that's surrounded or heavily influenced by people who either ruin or make my relationship purposely difficult and dramatic. I just don't understand how my bf thinks it's okay for me to accept his friends who clearly have no interest in giving fair, well-informed advice. & I somehow become the enemy when I try so hard to act like a true friend to these people. I just can't seem to win. They will obviously just narrowly take his side on everything because he met them first and texts them more (pathetic I know, but I'm honestly not exaggerating).
I know people will say friends always side w/ their friends. But FYI, my friends are respectable people who don't always take my side; they try to find ways to improve my relationship, and they want to see things from a boyfriend's point of view. Even my bf likes my close friends. In short, I honestly don't think it's a good idea for my bf to associate w/ these people. It nearly ended our relationship before, and history seems to be repeating itself. It's not like I want him to have no friends---just better friends. Personally, I'm tired of dealing w/ this drama & these people who neglect to acknowledge exactly who I am---a friendly, caring, aware, and observant individual who has nothing but good intentions. So, what would you do as a boyfriend or girlfriend?